What Has Caused Marriages to Become Expendable?

What has caused marriages to become expendable?
Fact, Websters Dictionary defines expendable as: that which may be expended: as a: normally used up or consumed in service expendable supplies like pencils and paper> b: more easily or economically replaced than rescued, salvaged, or protected .Breaking this down first off mmarriages have seemed to have lost their luster over the years and are indeed not rescued, salvaged or protected anymore ,"used up".Secondly it might seem easier to replace one partner for another.

Statistically from 1970 to 2008 divorce rates have climbed from 40% to 74% .Only about 4 out of 10 marriages last longer than 5 years.In many cases if your parents have been divorced chances just doubled for you that your marriage will not last or that you will not hold onto the sanctity of marriage.If you marry between the ages of 18-25 you also fall into the category of a 40% more risk of ending up in a divorce.These are alarming and overwhelming rates but are indeed reality.Ideologies range widely for exact reasonings and each divorce has it's own unique persona but all in all the fault relies on the couple not being able to adjust,adapt and reason.

Many people tend to blame the late 1970's and into the 1980's era where women became independently strong in the work force as part of why marriages have taken a downward spiral. For years women were always at home and available at all times then the idea took form that if man can do it so can woman,this idea spread like wildfire.On one hand some men seemed to be threatened by women being in power in companies and then on the other hand it lead to curious arousal ,which lead to workplace affairs.

Another theory is the rise of the Internet.Originally on line chatting was set up and geared more towards businesses,especially those that dealt with out of state or overseas clients.Sadly it also lead to world wide chaos.Marriages took a hard hit and fell prey to Internet affairs.On line it is easy to become whoever you want and to say whatever you want and many people use it as loophole,an escape from their everyday lives.Unfortunately if someone is looking to meet someone on the Internet they are already willing to test the waters of their relationship and see how far they can push the envelope to find out if what they have is really rock solid or not.

Still another reasoning as to why marriages have fallen prey to failure is lack of communication.In the beginning the first couple of years,it is all getting to know each others quirks,likes and dislikes so communication is a must.After the first initial early years couples tend to start taking advantage of each other they assume what he/she might be thinking and become lazy in the relationship. Family dinners at the table and long walks have mostly turned into take out and cell phone texting.We have taken away the act of actually talking to someone about issues and replaced it with "modern" technology.

And least but definitely not lastly,selfishness.Our society has coddled the "all about me" syndrome and if you think only of yourself then you indeed can't be expected to be good husband or wife.Over the past decade many people have taken the idea "make sure that you are happy with yourself before you can please anyone else" way to far,this phrase was intended to combine couples not break them down.The fact is that if you are happy with yourself and who you are then you more capable of being a better person with someone else as a couple not for someone else.

The decision of choosing to make marriages expendable lies within each individual person.It is a strong willed true couple that can withstand all the negativeness that is out there and prevail.It is easy to become a statistic,it takes dedication to become the difference.

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