Ordinary Women with Extra Ordinary Attitude

In the world of men, when a women stands on her own requires a great attitude and courage. My story narrates one such woman with extra ordinary attitude. Let me take to a middle class family where boy is given preference over girl. Girl from childhood is taught to remain in certain safe domain and follow orthodoxy. Heroine of my story "Neeru" is born in a big middle class Hindu family. She was the 6th child in her family. Father of "Neeru" a village school master could not sustain the burden of the big family died at an early age. So the whole family was under the guidance of maternal uncle. Neeru was given in marriage when she only completed class 6th.

Journey from AP to Orissa
Neeru a gentle natured girl was given in marriage to family in Orissa. After marriage she very quickly adjusted to new surrounding .As time past by she was blessed by first child and life of Neeru slowly turned in to turbulences. Her husband who was working in Railways has to leave his native place and go to Pune. Neeru along with her husband moved to their new place with their new born child .In the new place situation was totally different from her native village. She has to cook food by charcoal and live in a small accommodation. She had problem in communication has she didn't know Hindi. Her husband now opted for a traveling job in Railways because the salary was very meagre. For daily chores and for marketing she had to communicate in Hindi, but she picked up Hindi quickly. This is the starting point of her life.

Inner strength
After few years Neeru and her husband moved back to Orissa. Now Neeru became mother of four children, and reached middle age. On reaching Orissa she stayed with her brother-in law's house along with her children and husband. Her sister-in law had different character. She cleverly put all the house hold responsibility on Neeru and enjoyed her time by hearing radio. When the food is prepared she would first serve food to her children first remaining balance to Neeru and her children. And in dinner time when Neeru husband would arrive late from his job only some tit bits would remain which Neeru and her husband would consume. Slowly whole episode turned very ugly and turned in to torture. She then decided that she along with her four children and her husband will shift to the place of her husband's work, which was a small railway station. From that that time she changed her attitude. It was very difficult for her to sustain with four children and a constant flow of relatives. She did not lose heart but started to stitch cloths from the Railway Mahila samiti & also for her family. This helped her and her economy improved. Slowly the situation changed, she gave birth to her fifth child. Neeru's children were all girls; this was not liked by her mother-in-law as she always praised her elder daughter-in-law for giving birth to three sons. This added more woes as she referred the girls as insects & sons as honey.

Tailoring Job
She now was recognized by all for her good work in stitching cloths. By seeing her many women came forward and they too started stitching cloths as hobby and also could earn money for their family. This became a revolution. She helped many families from facing economic hardship.

Extra ordinary guts
As narrated earlier she had five girls and in Indian society giving marriage that too as a middle class family was a Herculean task. She had a far sightedness and she used to save money from first thus helped her at this moment. In this world giving one daughter marriage is a difficult job but she managed five marriages. Not only she gave her children in marriage but at least three more marriage was performed by her. She helped her neighbours at the wee hours for any lady getting delivery, helping in making sweets & so on. So she became a symbol of extra ordinary strength.

One of her niece a doctor was given in marriage to a wealthy doctor, one year after her marriage under a mysterious circumstance her husband died. And her niece was suspected for her husband death. Neeru went to her niece place took control of the whole situation and manage to bring her niece back. She encouraged her niece to once again change her life. In due course of time she got a job as a rural doctor. But she remained sad, seeing this Neeru encouraged her in getting married a Medical Representative who was four years younger to her but was of other language. Her parents were against the marriage but Neeru took courage & arranged her niece to get married . After that her niece life changed and she remained happy.

So Neeru in whole of her life sacrificed her happiness for others and never gave hope. She was always there as a person whom people could depend upon at their difficult times. In short she could be described as "Ordinary Women with extra Ordinary Attitude"