Successful Dating: Observe His Mom!

Something I have learned through dating is to sort of date my beau's mom. I have found that when I get along with, and like his mother, the relationship will develop better. Here are some things I look out for when I meet mum: the possessive matriarch, the martyr, and the nagger. Stay clear of these types and have better relationships. If Mommy has a healthy frame of mind, my beau will have a better attitude about women. Here are the mothers I advise to avoid:

The first mom to avoid is the jealous, possessive matriarch. No woman will ever be good enough for her son. She is usually over indulgent, doing his errands and laundry, and waiting on him hand and foot. Be wary of expectations to do the same, but never doing them as well as good as old mommy. Mommy Dearest has ruined him.

Mother Type two to avoid is the martyr. A mass of negativity, all she talks about is: what is wrong with everyone in the world. She is unhappy. Obviously, she has no self- esteem, and no life of her own. One of the warning signs here is that mum has a bad marriage, and this is beau's role model. For example, if he sees misery as part of the female role, he is apt to create it for his partner.

The third category to avoid is the nagger. She has bullied and belittled him his whole life. The problem here is if asked to do something, he will tune out, just as he has learned to do with her. For example, if his mother is this type, he will think of women as bitchy and demanding. He will often be passive aggressive, agreeing to do things but, somehow never getting them done.

God forbid, if mum is all the above, run! What you have here is the breeding ground for misogyny: men that dislike women or have low opinions of women.
In contrast, if his mother has a cheerful disposition,a happy marriage, and and a life of her own, he should have a healthy attitude about women.

How he treats his mother is of equal importance. If he is thoughtful, generous and considerate of his mother, he will hold his partner in the same regard. If he takes advantage of or disrespects his mother, beware! Remember he has learned intimacy from mom, so watch very closely.

So, in conclusion, when dating a man, date his mammy. Stay clear of the possesive matriarch, the martyr, and the nagger. I put myself in mum's shoes, how
her treats her is how he'll treat me. Check out mom's shoes, If they are nasty old house slippers, don running shoes, now! If they are happy shoes the walk through life will be a lot smoother.