10 Reasons to Say No to a Marriage Proposal

Perhaps you are in a serious relationship and feel he is going to propose at any time. Maybe you know what you will say. Maybe you don't. Maybe you are not sure. This article will go over ten possible reasons why you should say no.

This first reason may seem somewhat obvious but it is still worth repeating. Say no if you do not love the person. You may really like them and love them. Your just not in love with them. You may have hope that you will eventually fall in love with them like they love you. If you do not have that kind of love for them right now don't bet on loving them that way in the future. Sometimes you can really like someone and it can be more of a friendship than a relationship. It is better to get out now then get married and find out a few years down the road the little voice inside your head was right along. It can save both of you a world of hurt.

With divorce so rampant and widespread now days you do not want to contribute to that statistic. It is much better to even wait until the actual wedding day and then break it off then to walk down that aisle to just end in divorce later. Now I would advise you break up before the wedding day, but if that is the day it has to happen on then so be it.

The second reason to say no is if you feel he is just proposing to keep you around. You know your relationship and the ups and downs it has. If there has been circumstances to arise that you have disagreed on or if he has shown signs of possessiveness and jealousy you need to find out if the proposal is genuine or just a way to hold onto you.

The third thing you need to ask yourself is could he be proposing out of guilt? Have you recently caught him with another girl? Maybe he apologized and felt bad so his way of making it better is to get married. He could be genuinely sorry but you do not want to get married just to ease his guilty conscience.

Reason #4 to say no to that marriage proposal. If you are pregnant. Marriage is not always the answer here, especially if you are both young. In this case, two wrongs do not make a right. Perhaps later on down the road when your both older and hopefully a little wiser marriage may be the right thing to do. To get married just because your are pregnant is not a good reason. One thing to ask yourself here is would you be planning a wedding or even be thinking about getting married if you were not pregnant? Something to think about.

The fifth reason to say no is if your boyfriend has ever been abusive. This could also apply to girlfriends. Men are not exempt from abuse. If your boyfriend/girlfriend has ever been abusive to you, you can bet they will be abusive later. Thinking that marriage will make it all better is being blind to the truth. If anything, it will only get worse. Get out now while you can and do not look back. Better to get out now before marriage and before kids then wait when it will be harder to leave.

The sixth reason to say no is if you are just looking to get married. You want the big wedding. The fancy honeymoon. You are just looking for someone to take care of you and "rescue" you. Please say no if this is you! I feel if you continue on with the proposal and then marriage you will wake up to a very harsh reality. Do not get married for any of the above reasons.

Now the seventh reason may not apply to you but if it does, listen up. If you have quite a bit of money and you are not 100% sure the marriage proposal is genuine or if they just want your money, then say no. Only you can be the judge of this. Be careful and sure of their motives and the reason behind the marriage proposal. It is hard to think they would just be proposing to you because of your money, but it is better to know now then to be sorry later.

The eight reason to say no is out of loneliness. I know being alone and feeling lonely is no good, but neither is getting married just because you are.

The ninth reason to say no to a marriage proposal is pressure. This could be pressure from your parents or friends. Perhaps you are with the "perfect" guy. Good looking, hard working, and he has a great job! You family sees him as the perfect catch. They are practically already planning your wedding for you. Do not marry out of this type of pressure. If you do not love him and don't want to get married then stand your ground.

The last reason, #10, to say no is a tricky one. This reason is really on a couple to couple basis. It is getting married only because one of you is about to leave for a long period of time. This could be a military deployment or a job. Like I said, each couple is different. Sometimes this is okay and then sometimes I just don't think it is. Not the best reason to get married.

Please understand, this article is not telling you NOT to get married. It is telling you things to watch out for before making the big plunge. When you do get married you want to get it right. It is not a dress rehearsal. Although I believe many falsely see it that way. Just because you turn down a marriage proposal doesn't mean you necessarily have to totally break up. You can still stay together and see how things go. You will know your relationship best. You will also know if it is right or if it isn't.

If people would spend as much time and effort on the marriage as they do the wedding there may be less divorce. Something else for you to think about!