10 Ways to Not Doom Your Relationship

This is a response to "Doomed Relationships: The loser list of men women must never date." Published on October 10th 2006.

"Doomed relationships: The loser list of men women must never date" is an interesting piece composed for all women to reflect on some of their worst choices in men. I have decided to include another helpful piece, which women also should consider when choosing a mate.

Ladies, this is a 10 point piece that I thought would be useful knowledge to share. A simple 10 ways to not doom yourself before the relationship even begins.

Doom #1 - Do not date anyone whom you feel isn't marriage material.

Screen your boyfriends and potential husbands with a keen eye. Being blindsided begins some of the most obvious doomed relationships. If you spend more time ensuring certainty and trust and less time on materialistic features it's perceptible. Therefore, you can eliminate a potential doomed relationship in the making.

Doom #2 - Finding a good man at the club is a slim chance.

Finding a worthy and loyal husband at a nightclub has a very slim chance. The odds don't favor you to accomplish such a feat. If its romance you're looking for you may have to search higher grounds. A lot of doomed relationships begin with this eroded element of soul hunting; looking for the man of her dreams on the dance floor. There are many places in the world to go, but this isn't the one of the most promising.

Doom #3 - Don't taunt men by using sex as kryptonite.

Many women use sex to entrap men, offering their bodily goods often until it appears evident that he's hooked. "Gotcha!" she giggles as she reels in her line and looks at the largemouth caught at the end of the hook. Your body is a temple; do not use it as bait to trap men or for your own amusement and personal gain. Discussing the importance of sex early on can save yourself from a potential doomed relationship.

Doom #4 - Try not to air your dirty laundry.

Continually discussing the bad days in your relationships amongst friends, family members and coworkers is a sure way to doom it. By surrounding them with the negative instead of the positive, they'll offer more reason for you to break it off. In turn, many women do tend to take that advice a bit far, relying on outsiders to construct a blueprint of how their relationship should go.

Doom #5 - Stop reminding men how often you have been hurt.

Some men are content to doom a relationship when they know a woman is weak. By constantly reminding them of all of your troubling experiences, you expose yourself to such torment. Don't reveal your old inner pains during the infatuation stage.

Doom #6 - Don't allow a relationship that is based strictly on sex.

One the fastest ways to burn a relationship is by establishing its purpose of meeting for sex. In turn, you have no real foundation developed. Bad nights are a coming; not every sex episode will be an explicit wildlife safari. If a couple can't talk afterward because the sex wasn't good for the last two nights, "Houston we have a problem."

Doom #7 - Know what it is your asking for.

Approach each relationship with the right idea; know what it is you are looking for. A man who is good in bed but poor at communicating is not the man you want, no matter how you cut and slice it. Be responsible enough to accept that and move on. Life is short and we all are entitled to what we want. Your relationship will be doomed if you commit to a bond in which you are only happy half the time.

Doom #8 - Pay attention to your Spider-sense.

If something doesn't seem right about this guy, than something isn't right about this guy. Take time to find out whom you choose to date. Don't doom your life or waste your time by dating someone who isn't worth it.

Doom #9 - Don't believe in all the hype, yet.

Some men prey on women who fall victim to buying the hype. Extraordinary careers, remarkable community service and good taste in music are not enough. Test these men before passing judgment as who is right or wrong for you.

Doom #10 - Don't sugar coat the real you.

Be you and only you. Don't bury the real you to appease anyone. Give yourself as well as the new man in your life an option.

Be safe, be true, be you.