15 Rules of Texting Guys

Texting has become the new means of communication. Most of our daily conversations are written through various text messages. With the popularity of texting, how do you text the new guy in your life and win him over?

If you want to win a guy over let him do the initiating, men like a challenge. Yes, I do understand this is easier said than done, but as they say, patience is a virtue. How you text a man will essentially mirror how you will act as a girlfriend.

So, use caution when texting and don't forget to be yourself.

1. Don't send too many texts.

The best rule of thumb here is to let him be the leader. Only send a text when he does. However, if you do send a text first, always make sure you get a response text before you send another. If he's not responding, he's most likely busy and you'll become a pest if his phone keeps going of at work or while he's sleeping. If he's with his friends and his phone keeps going off, you'll look needy and clingy, not only to him but to his friends as well.

2. Use smiley faces when being sarcastic.

If you're going to use your quirky humor to win him over, make sure he realizes it for what it is, sarcasm. There would be nothing worse than to offend a potential boyfriend in an attempt to be funny especially when you're in the beginning stages of your relationship and getting to know each other.

3. Don't text unnecessary ramblings.

Men don't always find what women find interesting. So save what you ate for lunch and the super cute new shoes you just bought for your girlfriends.

4. Don't text open-ended questions.

If you text a question that requires a long response or a lot of thought you might scare him off. Men have a hard time to put their feelings into words. If you have serious questions that need answering, save it for a date over dinner.

5. Don't plan dates via text.

If you have the sudden urge to invite him on a double date with a close friend, call him. You'll be able to read his true feelings better if you can hear his voice and you'll feel more confident if you guys are on the same page.

6. Don't text him after midnight.

If you're serious about dating a guy, don't text him after midnight. Late night texts are usually associated with 'booty calls' and won't get you into girlfriend status.

7. Don't drunk text.

You're out with your girls, have had a few drinks, and have blabbed about him all night, so he's on your mind, but do not text him. You're out with your girlfriends so focus on building memories, not texting a potential boyfriend. Also, we all know that we can say things we don't mean while drinking and alcohol can intensify our feelings. So, hold off on texting him until you make sure you're feelings are the same and as strong sober, then tell him to his face.

8. Don't argue via text.

Arguing via text will only confuse and offend him. It's easier to send a mean text than to say it to his face. If an argument arises, talk it out over the phone or even better, face to face.

9. Don't send provocative picture messages.

If you're only getting to know the guy, hold off on sending dirty picture messages. If it ends badly, it could end up in the wrong hands or on the Internet.

10. Don't overuse abbreviations.

Overuse of abbreviations can make a text hard to read and can make you look uneducated. Take the time to spell out words, if you run out of room to finish your text, you shouldn't be texting. Remember, short and sweet is the key. Also, make sure you check the spelling of all words.

11. Don't Sext.

Yes, I said it, don't sext. Men filter women into two categories, sex material and relationship material. If you want a relationship, don't send dirty text messages.

12. Don't use texting to replace actual conversation.

Use texting for short, simple messages is perfectly acceptable, but when you start to replace vocal conversation with text conversation you lose a sense of connectedness. This can also lead to unnecessary fights because texts can often be misread or there is a long gap in response time. Sometimes, being in constant conversation with each other can hurt the relationship.

13. Wait awhile before responding to his texts.

I'm not saying you have to wait hours to text him back, but at least a few minutes. Quick responses without delay can be read as desperation. It's the mysterious girls that always get the guy.

14. Less is always more.

When you're first getting to know a guy less is always more. Let him do the initiating, and if he's into you, he will. Don't become the psycho creeper girl and chase a guy through text messages, you'll never win. Men were designed to be the hunter, the conqueror; don't deny him the pleasure.

15. Don't ever break up through a text message.

Breaking it off with someone via text is immature and rude. If you break up with anyone, for whatever reason, they deserve a face-to-face confrontation. They deserve to hear your reasons and offer a rebuttal.