I vow to never put up with the crap I've tolerated any more.
Here are some things women should never forgive men for doing:
Texting while on dates with you. Like Dr. Phil says, if they're doing this while with you, you're not their priority and they don't respect you. I dated a guy who was texting other women while he was on dates with me only I had no idea.
Criticizing or judging you. For example, does he make fun of your Halloween costume as soon as you go pick him up for the party? Does he constantly pick at you and act like he can't stand for you to be happy? When you are happy does he try to "fix" it so you're as miserable as him?
Talking about you to your friends negatively. I dated a guy who told one of my friends all this stuff about me, things that were bothering him instead of talking to me.
Having a total disregard for your health. Do you have asthma and does he smoke in front of you even though he knows it's bad for you? Does he insist on having sex even when the doctor told you to recover from your female illness first?
Is he racist or anti-gay? If you have a family member who's gay this isn't going to work because your guy's going to be making comments and you'll be seething inside.
Mistreating your pet. This is a no-brainer. One time and this guy is GONE!
Being a player. Has he got five women on his plate at once and is he juggling them behind your back? Does he tell you stories like "She's stalking me" only for you to find out that he was dating her, too?
He's a con artist. Learn how to screen for these guys when meeting someone new including novel ways some men are trying to fool women. Watch for changing job positions. For instance, does he say he's a district manager then change it to something else. If he says he works days and you keep running into him during the day all the time, ask him what his work hours are. Beware, he may have an answer that doesn't make sense. Call his job and verify employment. Be aware he may tell you that it's top secret or some such crap.
He makes up excuses constantly. Why, for instance, couldn't he come to your birthday party because he had a work trip, then later that night you see him out and about?
Making up lies about you. I know a guy who called CPS on a woman he was lusting for because she wouldn't have sex with him.
Being a mooch. Does he always have his hand out to everyone wanting money and never putting anything in the pot? Does he think the world owes him a living cause he had a bad childhood? Does he continuously take advantage of you financially? Observe his finances regarding asking to borrow money though he tells you he makes $79,000 a year though he has no car.
Repeated alcohol or drug relapses. He loves to get rescued and he's hoping you will keep doing it as long as you're willing to. Be alert to lies. He may tell you he got sober in 1990 then you find out he smokes pot daily. Educate yourself about alcoholism and drug abuse. Many drug addicts and alcoholics claim to be sober or clean and are not.
Pushing his religion on you. Does he try to shove his religion down your throat only for you to find out he's a hypocrite anyway?
Pushing his politics on you repeatedly. Have you made it clear you're a bleeding liberal only to have him spam you constantly with anti-Obama emails?
Does he get really angry when you question anything? When you start asking questions, he gets cold.
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2 Comments
Post a CommentWhy do you suppose that most women are attracted to jerks? I've got several theories:
1) It's a Darwinian evolutionary attraction, much like how the doe is attracted to the buck with the biggest horns who fights off the other bucks or the lion with the biggest mane who defeats the other males. Females of most mammalian species are attracted to the most aggressive, assertive, self-promoting males, just as males are attracted to the female with the sleekest haunches.
2) The mothering instinct kicks in - most women think they can change the jerk and bring him around - he's a highly challenging test of her mothering and nurturing skills.
3) Low self-esteem. Landing a jerk is a big ego boost and tells a woman she must be hot and desireable.
Forgot to add abusing you or the kids, of course.