3 Punch Lines Parents Should Never Use on Their Children

The way parents verbally and physically discipline their children nowadays seems to be a much more sensitive subject than ever before. The way a parent disciplines their children verbally usually depends on how that person was nurtured or abused by their parents, or whomever they were raised by. The kind of lifestyle a person lived growing up, will also have an effect on how that person speaks to their children. Most parents do have good intentions regardless of how they may discipline a child verbally. Here, we're going to look at some punch lines that parents use, but should never use on their children.

This first punch line is one that I've seen the used as a joke, as well as a form of discipline, but parents should be careful and try not to use it in any way against their children. A parent should never ask their child, "What makes you think you're so special?" I have never understood why someone would say this to their kid. Our children are the future, and the heirs to our family's legacy. We should make our children feel like they are special every chance we get. When a child grows up thinking that he or she is special, it creates an environment for them to excel in everything they do. A parents confidence in their child, has more influence on that child than any outside influence could ever have. So make sure that you are lifting your children up when you speak to them and not putting them down to make them feel low.

The next punch line a parent should never use with a child is, "You got what you deserved!" Instead of trying to make them feel bad about some form of negative consequences, that they may have suffered, take the time to explain to them how karma works. The last thing a child needs is to think that their parents are okay with bad things happening to them. Using this kind of punch line on your kid can lead to them feeling, like you don't really love them. There are many ways around using this kind of verbal abuse on your children. Instead of trying to make them feel worse about the situation, try to help them understand that there are consequences to every action they take, both positive and negative.

Though each punch line has its own type of negative effect on children, this third punch line may have the worst effect on young children. So never tell your child, "You can't do anything right!" A child that grows up feeling like they can't do things right will grow up to be a complete failure. This kind of verbal abuse will cause a child to be a quitter. I don't think that any parents, who have ever said this to their children, have said it, with the intention of it affecting their child in such a negative way. This is why it is extremely important that parents watch their choice of words around their kids. Parents are their children's teachers. If you feel that your child isn't doing something right, you need to guide them down the correct path. Patience is everything when it comes to our children.

Parents should try to avoid using punch lines altogether when it comes to their children. Discipline is absolutely necessary; however, the goal of disciplining our children should be geared toward their improvement, and not toward bringing them down. Verbal abuse has more long-term effects on our children's lives than most physical abuse does. So, never make your child feel like they aren't special, never make them feel like they deserve negative consequences, and never make them feel like they can't do anything right. Uplift, teach, and encourage your children and I can almost guarantee that you will raise a very successful, and positive human being.