3 Ways to Please a Woman:

Communication is the key to any relationship; business relationships, casual and family relationships, and certainly intimate relationships. Something is lost in sharing our thoughts, concerns, and affections by way of 140 character tweets, text messaging, and e-mails. Face to face conversation has its place, but still has its draw backs which we will cover in a moment. The written word, the love letter, is an opportunity to pull back the curtains of your heart and reveal your true self.

When I would receive hand written letters from my wife while away in the Army, I valued those so much more than the e-mail updates she sent near daily. The letter held a small amount of her, right there in my hands. I could almost feel her hands holding the letter with mine. Sometimes she would write in different colors, not because I would choose pink and purple, but because she knew that I would expect her to use those colors. She was sending a bit of herself.

People tend to send messages in the way they prefer to receive them. If your loved one writes to you, or used to write to you, rest assured that she wants you to write back.

A Sharing Journal

When we talk face to face with someone we are continuously measuring their kinetic, or non-verbal, cues. We subconsciously observe, evaluate, and adjust off of the feedback we are receiving. No matter how intimate the relationship, when you talk with another person you are basing what you say next, in part, on what feedback you are receiving. This is not only completely natural, it is downright necessary if we want to persuade or influence. The problem with opening up emotionally to someone is that we don't want to limit our exposure based on what we think the other might say. Sometimes it is best to simply poor out the contents of our hearts for another to catch. This takes a good amount of trust, and having some ground rules can help.

Sharing a journal structures the conversation for both of you. One writes in the journal whatever they want to express; good emotions, bad emotions, fear or anxiety, longing, passion, sadness, whatever the writer wants the other to read. Now for the rule; the reader can ONLY respond by writing in the journal. You can't choose to bring up a topic in the journal and then demand a verbal response, or decide you don't want to write because you are emotional right now. Having to write in the journal forces thought outside of pure emotion. Using the journal allows for reflection on the words you are about to send to this person you love and respect.

My wife uses this technique to communicate with our teenage daughter, and it has been very helpful in keeping the channels of communications open. *Note-this type a journal makes a great gift idea. Pick up a nice journal that fits your collective personality and make the first entry explaining its purpose.

The Quirky Note

There is something endearing about a man's willingness to be a little goofy for his love. It says that she is more important to you than you are to yourself. Besides, everyone enjoys a laugh. Leaving little notes around the house to be found later is a great way to let someone know you care. Some can be obvious, like the sink in the morning, but others should a surprise. I once left a yellow sticky note on her steering wheel, with her not knowing that I drove across town to leave a simple love note.

Little poems on notes are good also. They don't even have to be good poems. I left this following poem in the bathroom before leaving out for work. I got a call right on schedule from my giggling wife who was as thankful as I was for what the poem said.

Here's the poem: Roses are Red, and sometimes Yella. I sure is glad you ain't no Fella

Enjoy these 3 ways to please a woman. At the beginning I said this did not include sex, but if you follow these tips I can't guarantee that sex won't be the result.