3 Ways Women Sabotage Relationships: Condescension to Jumping to Conclusions

I am sure from the start you are thinking, "I don't do that;" but odds are you do. Women, by our very nature, are more complex than men. So, it's no wonder that we do things in relationship that foster conflict without even trying. Generally the idea of conflict in relationships is always met with opposition from men, because guys don't like arguing with their girlfriends or spouses. In these situations, guys they to be problem solvers. Wanting only to know, what's the problem and what can he do to fix it. So, ladies as you read these 3 feminine flaws, don't get defensive. Just realize you are not alone.

There are women who practice the silent language of mad. This is when she says one thing and means something else. If you and your honey have been dating for a few months, then you know her silent language double meanings all too well. And, while you may not know what she's mad about. The fact that she is mad is totally obvious. The most common silent language give away is when she ends the conversation with "fine," and walks away. Others include, arm folding, deep sighs, cleaning, rearranging, and the need to dance. In woman code, she is mad. However, she needs time to process. Women want to talk about things. Yet, they want to talk about them only on their time. Guys usually deal with these signals by giving space and leaving the room, the home, or the area. Men don't like being around you when there is a problem you refuse to talk about, because they can't fix it. Now, the good thing is that you usually don't break up over such things unless they become frequent; or, they root causes of this behavior are often trivial.

Some women are guilty of jumping to an over analyzed conclusion. Both men and women have tendencies of jumping to conclusions. But, in this category women leap at the speed of light, while most men take frog like hops. Women go from, he is working late to having to raise future kids alone. It's not always a bad thing and it comes from planning for the future and thinking ahead. Women are always thinking ahead, that pre-planning is always a good thing. However, society and the media have caused a lot of women to be insecure. These insecurities coupled with thinking ahead allow women to constantly jump to conclusions. General areas of jumping include worries of infidelity, finances, and child rearing. The constant accusations for most men are annoying, if they are not cheating. Guys tend to use it as an excuse to start.

Then you have the "down talkers." This is the most common to go unnoticed by women. Women with more dominant personalities or stronger wills usually talk down to their significant others. This happens when their tone, language and demeanor cause the guys to feel as though his mother is scolding him. Common down talkers include, but are not limited to, single mothers, professional women, college students, women that are the bread winners, and women in the military. "Down talkers," are usually at the greatest risk of losing their beloved. Basically, because men feel emasculated. It is as if you don't respect him enough to speak to him like an adult. Be advised that down talking does not mean yelling necessarily, and has more to do with a tone of authority. The sad thing is that most women do it in order to be taken seriously, and usually don't realize how small it can make a man feel.

At the end of the day, as cliché as it sounds, a man needs to feel like and be treated like a man. Not to say that a good man does not appreciate a strong women. Yet, women who constantly cause him to feel like less of a man usually find themselves alone. And, for some women that's ok. But, if you are in a relationship and you find yourself constantly running into conflict, you may want to objectively examine all of the evidence. There are tons of articles and magazines that tell women how to spot male personality flaws. However these very same magazines steer clear of female flaws, unless of course we are talking about physical flaws. Take an objective eye to how you handle conflicts in your relationship, and if you find one of these habits. Understand why you do it and work toward a change. Remember admitting you have a problem is the first step.