4 Signs She Has Excess Baggage

Excess baggage is something that most women have due to things that happen in life. You shouldn't hold baggage against someone, but you should ask yourself if you can deal with it in a romance relationship. Here are four signs she has excess baggage.

Low Self Esteem

She may have low self esteem that can make a relationship quite complicated. Self esteem is something that is hard to change unless you seek therapy to help overcome the issues that cause the poor self esteem in the first place. She may not feel good enough for anyone whatsoever. She may not feel pretty enough and loved enough by anyone.

Abandonment Issues

Abandonment issues that someone has is usually caused by the childhood memories. Mother and father may have sent them away or left that resulted in them never coming back for a long time. Abandonment issues are something that can drive someone nuts when they don't know how to deal with it.

Sexual Abuse Issues May Cause Decreased Sex Drive

She may have baggage from sexual abuse that happened to her in the past. The sexual abuse may make it very uncomfortable for her to trust you enough in the beginning that you won't hurt her. She may fear you and fear sex. She might want you to sleep with your underwear on while you sleep next to her in the bedroom in order to make her feel more secure that you won't hurt her. You may never know the amount of damage caused by her being a victim of sexual abuse. She may not be able to talk about it without crying. Nobody gets over sexual abuse as easy as people think they should despite how many years it has been.

Physical Abuse May Cause Her To Fear You

Physical abuse can mess her up for several years despite the bruises being gone. Nobody forgets physical abuse that was done to them by others during their childhood and adult years. Physical abuse can still make her fear you. She may flinch away when you go to touch her or hug her in anyway possible due to the body that remembers the abuse. She might cringe when you get mad or get too close to her at times that makes her feel smothered.