5 Big Fears Women Have About Getting Married

Everyone has heard it a million times how afraid some men are of tying the knot. It almost sounds like they're putting a noose around their neck. Contrary to the popular belief that every woman wants to get married, women have fears too. Let's take a look at some of the reasons women may be just as afraid to get married as men.

Becoming His Cook and Housekeeper-

I know this is one I'm afraid of, and I'm not the only one. I have heard women say this one so many times I cant even count. For whatever reason society as a whole still sees the cooking and cleaning as women's work. Even if a man helps the little woman out, he still only ends up doing a lot less than her. I used to own a cleaning service and I talked to woman after woman complaining that they not only worked 40-50 hours a week, but then they came home and did all the cooking and cleaning, When they finally couldn't stand it anymore, they called me. Older woman like myself seem to have this fear more than the younger women. Most men in their 50's and older unfortunately grew up in homes where they saw Mom doing it all. Ergo, they believe now it's the wife's turn. However, I have all heard different ages of women complaining about this. Obviously, this is a valid fear for most women.

Sexual Demands-

Some women are afraid if they get married that sexual demands will be put on them on a regular basis. Now, I'm not saying women hate sex, however with today's demands on most women, with working, kids, college classes, cooking, cleaning, etc, women are down right exhausted. The idea of a man wanting to have sex several times a week, when all she can image is finding some time to sleep, is a real fear for some women. On one hand they don't want to let their partner down, on the other hand sleep is a much more desirable choice. Perhaps if the man was a little more willing to do 50% of the cooking and cleaning, she wouldn't be so tired.

Being Taken For Granted-

A fear of a lot of women is that once married the man will get tired of having them around, or perhaps just become like a piece of the furniture. When they first met it was flowers, and special dinners, and he hung on to every word she said. Now, she feels lucky if he even hears or responds to her. It's kind of like when you first get a brand new piece of furniture that your admiring an looking at all the time, then after awhile it just starts to blend into the rest of the house after it's been around a while. A lot of men really do turn a deaf ear to a woman that's around all the time, and do tend to take them for granted. No wonder some women are afraid to get married, when living apart may make for a better relationship.

Becoming The Only Parent-

Once married, most couples want to travel down the road of having children. Well, that's all fine and good, but somewhere along the way, probably when the woman is carrying the baby for nine months, some men start to believe that Mommy is the custodial parent. I have seen this many, many times. Dad seems to think he is there to have all the fun, throwing the ball around, playing video games, wrestling around on the floor, and whooping it up in the pool. Meanwhile, Mom is stuck with washing their clothes, feeding them , bathing them, disciplining them, and whatever else chore you can think of that relates to having kids. Mmm, I wonder why a woman doesn't want to get married, and then have kids?

Being The Only Grown-Up-

Boy, Can I relate to this one. Even if the couple has no real children, oftentimes she is already stuck with one. I don't know how many times I heard a woman say "I don't have to have kids, I have my husband." These are usually the type of men that were looking for a Mommy instead of a wife. Don't get me wrong they still want to have sex, they just don't want to be responsible and grown-up about anything. Although they do work, that's the extent of their adult responsibility toward anything. The wife takes care of everything, including the bills, the problems, and even the maintenance on the house. The man goes out and plays with his friends. It's a very tiring relationship. at least for the wife. NO offense but, it's hard enough to take care of kids, without having to take care of six foot, 200 pound adult child. This type of man would put me off about marriage forever!

There you have it, some of the fears women have about getting married. Unfortunately, they are valid fears. I have known many men like the ones I described, and quite frankly I would be scared to death to marry any one of them!