5 Conversation Starters for Moms with Sons - Talking About Sex and Girls

It is difficult for moms to talk to their sons about girls and sex, but it is an important conversation to have. Even if dad has covered the sex talk with your little boys already, you still need to give them the benefit of your experience and your insights into relationships from the woman's point of view. This perspective can help your sons to be a more caring partner and it can also help him to learn to respect women instead of just viewing them as sex objects.

Conversations Starters #1 - Take Advantage of the Drive Home

Finding the perfect time to talk about dating and sex is tricky, especially since family life has become so hectic. However, one of the best times to talk about girls and dating is when you are driving in the car. This setting is non-threatening, it is casual and it provides both of you the opportunity to talk without having to look directly at one another. You can start a conversation about girls by simply asking them if there is anyone at school that they like. This can start the ball rolling.

Conversations Starters #2 - Dinner Talk

While it may seem like a strange time to talk about dating and sex, dinner is actually a great time to cover the social aspects of dating and being a responsible partner. You can start the conversation by talking about your own dating experiences and then talk about the dating behavior that you liked and didn't like.

Conversations Starters #3 - Make It Fun

Often times the big sex talk is embarrassing because it is approached in such a formal manner. Instead of making the talk a big and uncomfortable production, just have fun with it. Introduce the subject while watching a movie or while spending time as a family. You can jump start the conversation by mentioning embarrassing dating experiences that you have had and then ask them if they have any funny dating stories.

Conversations Starters #4 - Talk About Respect

While most sex talks are going to cover the mechanics and safety precautions for sex, some parents forget to teach their sons about respecting their partner. This subject can be addressed when you are talking about other issues that deal with respect such as respect for teachers, respect for coaches and respect for friends. Since you aren't talking about the act of sex but the sociality behind the act, it won't be as embarrassing for you.

Conversations Starters #5 - Team Effort

If you have a male partner then make the sex talk with your son or sons a team effort. It can be very beneficial to know about what each gender thinks about sex and what each needs from the experience to feel fulfilled. Also having insight into what both genders think about sex can help to make the entire situation less of a guessing game.

References

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2004/04/27/earlyshow/contributors/emilysenay/main614074.shtml