5 Fastest Methods to Build Self Esteem

We all want the drive, the nerve, the guts, the fortitude and the self confidence to get what we want out of life. In fact, most of us believe that those things are necessary in order to be successful! As humans, we dream big and we set our standards among the clouds. We daydream about that big promotion, making our neighbors jealous, or duly impressing our parents. In our minds, we successfully compete with our siblings, our spouses, our bosses or our ex-lovers. Let's face it: we want to live the high life, right now, better than everyone else. Most of us believe that high self esteem is the key factor in all of these accomplishments. Five necessary steps to self esteem development will be discussed: View of Self, Map Programming, Through the Eyes of Others, Goal Achievement, and Self Peace.

View of Self. As you probably know, your own picture of yourself is one of the hardest to change and one of the most important to achieve success in your life. Even if you have the perfect job, the highest income, the fanciest house and the most loving family if your view of self is low than all of the other aspects are wasted. You are constantly putting yourself down, accepting less than stellar results, unhappiness rises, contentment drops and everyone is deeply affected by your lack of self worth.

The truth is others will see you exactly as you see yourself. Have you ever noticed that, when judging others, you compare notes with the one person who knows them better than anyone else? That's right, you compare notes with that person's own sense of self worth. If they know themselves better than anyone else, than their own perspective is the most reliable one. The same thing applies with you. If you have a low view of self, everyone else will automatically assume that you are right!

Change your view of self by writing down ten things about yourself that make you worth being alive on this earth. Then, write down ten reasons why someone else would be fortunate to have you as a spouse. Follow this with ten reasons why you are a good mom, dad, brother, sister or cousin. Make lists about your job, and be honest with yourself. If you are a poor employee, being honest with yourself will help to change your priorities and push you up the corporate ladder.

Map Programming. One of the biggest reasons why people never achieve their life goals is that they do not put them down on paper. It is important to remember that you may not be working toward a goal because you feel that you will never get there or that you will need a lot of money to get there. The truth is, even if you have a lot of money, if you have never made something a goal, you will probably not be achieving it. The first step is to make goals, steps toward achieving them, and a plan to build a well-rounded life.

Many people have one or two tracked minds. They do not consider their development in every aspect of their lives. Many focus on a current need, such as a higher paycheck, a better marriage, nicer kids, etc. However, it is important to build your life as a well-rounded person. Equal focus should be given to your marriage, outside relationships, education, career, charitable contributions, community contributions, physical fitness and appearance, emotional growth, socialization, traveling and talents. These are all equal pieces of a pie shell. Map your life accordingly.

Through the Eyes of Others. You will fall in one of two categories. Either you do not feel the need to care what other people think of you, or you care very deeply about what others think of you. Whichever path you are on, viewing yourself through the eyes of others can be a great motivator to achieve higher success. Even if you have been told that you should not care what others think of you, remember: self promotion is a powerful tool and motivator.

Build yourself through the eyes of others by always grooming and dressing well, interacting with people who share your passions, building and perfecting a talent you have, keeping a clean, neat home, minding your own business to a fault, and always speaking well about others. Each of these steps is crucial to building your outward appearance and reputation. Do not do anything you would not want absolutely everyone (and I do mean everyone) to find out. You see, the truth really does come out eventually.

Goal Achievement. For this step, you will partly be using your well-rounded map programming from before, and you will partly be aware of your day-to-day achievements. Do not undermine yourself be playing down going to work every day, getting the laundry done and running the kids around on their errands. Never say that those things are unimportant or just another part of everyday life. No. You are accomplishing a lot by doing those things, and you are fully aware of it. Instead, be proud of yourself for maintaining growth in your children and marriage, getting your work done in a timely manner and keeping your castle spic and span.

Never underestimate the importance you have in developing your map programming plan and in accomplishing your small daily activities. These small activities add up quickly, so keep in mind all of the little things you do and forget about, realizing that without these things, you would not be the person you are today.

Self Peace. Some wise person first came up with the concept, "If you can't live by yourself and be happy, you have no business living with someone else." This is entirely too true. Moving from parents' house straight to married life, you may have missed a key step: self realization. You must be aware of yourself at all times throughout the day, and this means that you will have to turn off distracting components such as television, radio and gossipy neighbors. You need to learn what it is like to be by yourself and be content with your own person and your surroundings.

Self esteem is built through time, but there are important, necessary steps to take before you will have a high self esteem. Remember that personal development, interaction with uplifting peers and goal mapping are among the most important steps to achieving self esteem. When you have a strong sense of self, go ahead and keep living your life that way: with punch, drive, nerve and lots of guts.