5 Good Reasons Not to Live with Your In-Laws

Although your in-laws may be wonderful people, that doesn't mean it's a good idea to live with them. Oh sure, you may be able to sock that money away your saving by living with them, but that doesn't mean you'll live long enough to enjoy it. Let's take a look at five really good reasons why you shouldn't be living with your in-laws!

Familiarity Breeds Contempt-

II don't know who came up with this cliche but nothing is more appropriate than this when it comes to living with in-laws. In-laws from a safe distance can be wonderful. You don't know them too well, and they only know what you let them see. Unfortunately, when you move in with your new found Mom and Dad, that's what they asked you to call them, things change rapidly. There you are together every day, day in day out, learning each other's good as well as bad side. It's the bad side you have to worry about. All of a sudden your not the beautiful daughter-in-law, or the successful son-in-law anymore, your the pig who can't clean up after yourself, or the one who refuses to put the toilet seat down. Isn't closeness wonderful? Than there's that wonderful scenario of two women in the house at the same time. I guarantee, you'd better tell your mother-in-law she cooks better than you do. Or even better the two males seeing who can mark their territory the fastest. Yes, this is a scenario made in hell!

You Are Still the Children-

This is a very familiar one for most children that move home. Here you are married and all grown-up but Mom and Dad still see you ask Junior, or their little princess. This may or may not be tolerable to you, but your spouse keeps wondering why you don''t have the guts to tell Mom and Dad to stop treating you like a child. Then unfortunately, your spouse starts to see you in a whole new light. All of a sudden your a Mama's boy, or a spoiled rotten daddy's girl. Yes, living with your in-laws can definitely open your eyes to just how gutless, and spoiled your spouse can be!

My House My Rules-

If you decide to move in with your in-laws just remember one thing, and remember it well, then again they'll remind you if you forget, that it;'s their house and their rules. Remember how you waited all your life to get away from your Mom and Dad to make your own rules? Well, you might as well chuck them right out the window. You are now in, Their House!. For whatever reasons, parents and in-laws go into this mode of total control and power when you move in. Somewhere along the line they have forgotten you are adults with a free will of your own. If you don't mind being taken hostage for awhile, moving in with them won't be so bad after all.

Parenting Suggestions-

I use the word suggestion lightly as what there about to do regarding your children and how you are raising them has more to do with criticizing than suggesting. No matter how your raising your kids, it will never be right, they will tell you every minute of every day what you are doing wrong, and how they can fix it. They have no clue that maybe since they raised you, that maybe you know how to raise your children by what they taught you. All of a sudden you become the most inept parent on the face of the earth, They let you know loud and clear what you're doing will damage your children for life. Yes, as far as their concerned a wild dog could do better at raising your children than you can.

His Side Her Side-

Every couple needs to adjust and learn how to work out problems in their own way. Yes, I said their own way. Guess what? This is never going to happen living with your in-laws. Depending on the situation dear old Mom and Dad will side with one or the other, putting their nose into every single argument you have. Privacy about personal issues will be a thing of the past. All of a sudden your life is an open forum for them to get involved in. This is when all hell breaks loose. You're not only arguing about your problem, but now your arguing about which one is on whose side. It becomes a free for all, not to be imagined. By the time you end up moving out, if they ever let you go, there is bad feelings all the way around, and the idea of seeing your in-laws ever again is like your worst nightmare.

Well, I guess you've changed your mind about moving in with your in-laws. All I know is, in-laws are great from a distance, sometimes, but living with them, is like a trip to a place you really don't want to go!