5 Great Tips for Getting Women

For all guys still in the game, there's certain things that we need to do so we don't blunder while hitting on girls. Some of these are do's, other's are don'ts. The keys of game are to imitate the actions of an alpha leader, whether or not you truly are. Follow this list of guidelines and you'll be in the clear for the first mistakes that all rookies make:

Slow everything you do down and speak louder.
If you do things quickly, you come off as nervous. Women like strong, confident guys. When picking something up or reaching for a drink, do it slowly, with a calm and relaxed aura. When speaking to her, make sure to pause often and maintain eye contact. Even in dogs, the weakest break off eye contact with alpha dogs because it is a sign of respect and subordination. You're not subordinate; make sure you keep eye contact and act like a leader. In addition, make sure that you slow down your speaking and deepen your voice. Speak louder so that your voice projects farther distances. Girls will first hear the guy with the loudest voice, and you don't want to be beaten by some other loudmouth. Though you may not think these things make much of a difference, in reality, they do. Women unconsciously pick up on these cues and can sense weakness in guys within moments.

End conversations, meetings, and phone calls first.
As an alpha, you're a busy guy. Or, at least, you have to give that impression to the girl. When girls end conversations first, it means that they have something more important to do than talking with you. While this may be true, it sends a signal that you are not worthy of her time. How to fix this? Reverse it. End calls and instant messages first by saying that you have to go or are busy. It sends the same signals back: you're a busy guy who doesn't have enough time for petty talk. By giving her the impression that you are truly an alpha, you raise your value in her eyes and she'll feel the need to win you over. A key to gaming women is to reverse the game into them actually wanting you, and not the other way around.

Never give women what they want.
Learn to say no! Humans tend to want something, get it, and get tired of it. It's called the cat string theory. Cats will sit for hours looking at a ball of cat string, but only play with it for minutes and soon find it boring. The same goes for women. If you appease them and give them whatever they want, whether it be homework, money, or other gifts, they will thank you but find that you are no challenge. They have beaten you before the game has even begun. While you're still trying to hit on them, they'll have realized that they won you over and can get whatever they want from you. Rather, be playfully difficult. Don't give them want they want, even with the most simple things. If they say "text me later," nonchalantly remind them, "No, you text me later." Then, when they don't ask for things, surprise them with a gift or a friendly text. Rather than think they have won you over, they will genuinely believe that you are a compassionate fellow. Success!

Never ask girls what to do.
Have you ever asked a girl what they want to do? Or what they want to eat, what they want to get? More often than not, they'll say, "I don't know." And, with good reason: it's your job to make the decisions for both of you, not hers. It's a confidence issue. Confident guys are bold enough to make a decision and stick with it, whether or not the girl approves. By asking a girl what to do, it shows weakness and that you don't know what to do to have fun. Don't send her the wrong signal! Make sure you make the decisions and show that you are the alpha she thinks you are.

Be unpredictable.
Ever wonder why girls will show a lot of interest in you, then ignore your text? They're testing you (or they quickly found you boring). To guys, it's unpredictable, and it's hard for us to pick our finger on why they do it. But, being unpredictable is the language of women. Learn to speak it. The more unpredictable you are, the more the target will feel the need to understand you and win you over. How do you be, unpredictable though? Well, the best way to learn is from the masters themselves: women. One day, be really enthusiastic and give them a lot of attention. The next, respond only when they ask you things and don't show any real need to talk with them. Then be even more excited and fun around them the next day. These are great signals to throw girls off, and they'll come up with outrageous rationale to justify why you do it. Despite this, the best rationale, they'll find out, is to spend more time with you.

Source: David DeAngelo, "Double Your Dating."