5 Manipulation Tactics Used by Your Abusive Husband

Michelle Knudson
Nearly every abusive husbands use manipulation tactics towards their wife. It is important for women to educate themselves on manipulation tactics used by abusive husbands. Here are five manipulation tactics frequently used by abusive husbands.

Your Spouse Says "The police will believe me over you regarding abuse"

Your husband wants you to think that he is magical. He wants you to think that he has more power than what he really does. He wants you to feel trapped in the abuse. He wants you to feel that you can not stop the manipulation tactics since nobody will believe you over him. Abusive husbands do everything in their power to keep their wife quiet.

Your Spouse Says "Nobody else will ever want you"

Your abusive husband only makes those statements so that you will eventually think it is true. He is jealous of you leaving him to find another person to be romantically involved. He also uses this line as a bully tactic and control. Always remember that abuse is always about control and power.

Your Spouse Says "I know the magic words to get people to believe me over you"

This line is used when they are insecure. They are doing everything possible to try to keep control of you. They want you to NOT even think about leaving the abusive situation. They want you to be convinced that nobody will believe you over them. They screw with your mind by telling you this line over and over.

Your Spouse Says "I can snap your neck"

He uses threats as manipulation for you to begin to fear him. The reality of it all is that you already do fear him. He uses threats against your life to gain more control over you. He may have tried to suffocate you already with a pillow or other ways. He may have even told you that he didn't admit to the police that he tried to suffocate you since he would have been charged with an attempted homicide charge. Your spouse at this point scares you enough that you worry about your life. You have every right to seek help from police.

Your Spouse Says "I know the medical words to make the doctor admit you to a mental ward"

This is another tactic commonly used against someone with a mental illness. One thing that a spouse never realizes though is that he can be arrested for kidnapping when he tries to have you admitted against your will. You know the right words to say to make them think that you are more sane than what your husband tries to portray you as. Make sure that the mental health professionals does notify the police when your husband tries to admit you against your will. Any person that has a spouse who has medical knowledge is a threat to any person that has a mental illness.

Get away from an manipulative abusive husband as soon as possible due to the damage caused by him. He will keep up with the manipulation tactics as long as you allow it in your life. He is a bully that needs to be put to a stop. He will destroy your mind and self worth unless you leave immediately.

Published by Michelle Knudson

Michelle is a freelance writer who has sold and published over 550 articles. Her writing strengths include, business, financial topics and relationships. You may contact her at michelle@michelleknudsonwrite...  View profile

4 Comments

Post a Comment
  • mc12/5/2010

    So what about those of us that really love our wives; really want to be good husbands .... to the point that we are searching for reasons, or even better, examples of TRUE manipulation. I don't use any of these. I try not to threaten, harass, and manipulate the woman I love. Unfortunately, I find that if I say I need to use the restroom, she will twist my words to exclaim that I am manipulating her?
    All I said is "I need to pee", and now I get to hear about how me mentioning when all I needed was to use the bathroom. I ask her how what I said made her feel manipulated, and she then exclaims that my audacity of asking how what I said has caused her to feel manipulated.

  • MC12/5/2010

    So what about those of us that really love our wives; really want to be good husbands .... to the point that we are searching for reasons, or even better, examples of TRUE manipulation. I don't use any of these. I try not to threaten, harass, and manipulate the woman I love. Unfortunately, I find that if I say I need to use the restroom, she will twist my words to exclaim that I am manipulating her?
    All I said is "I need to pee", and now I get to hear about how me mentioning when all I needed was to use the bathroom. I ask her how what I said made her feel manipulated, and she then exclaims that my audacity of asking how what I said has caused her to feel manipulated.

  • Sandy James5/22/2010

    I had a friend in this situation; very sad.

  • S Gardner5/21/2010

    Glad to see you back writing. Sounds like things are hard, though. Thank you for sharing with others.

Displaying Comments

To comment, please sign in to your Yahoo! account, or sign up for a new account.