5 Reasons Why Women Date Married Men
(Why the Other Woman Won't Let Go)
Why did Monica want to sleep with a married man? She was young, attractive and smart. Plus, it was obvious that she'd never steal the President of the United States away from his wife. So what was her true motivation? As a matter of fact, what is any woman's motivation for dating a married man? After much thought, I think I have the answers.
In the movies, the other woman is typically depicted as a young, delusional being who just fell in love with the wrong person. The married man, of course, is the user. He's the great deceiver who disregards his marital vows in the effort to fulfill his deep, sexual lust. Right?
Although these stereotypes are popular, the truth is that the other woman may have a variety of agendas fueling her behavior. Depending on her age, social class and marital status, she might be carousing with another woman's man for several reasons other than love. Below are the top five.
#1 The sex is hot. Just like a lot of men, many women crave sex. As a result, when some women meet a man that they have an undeniable sexual attraction to, they rush forward and pounce. Although it's not always admitted to, this is one reason why some women just can't let a married man go. They love the sex and, as a result, refuse to end the relationship.
#2 She doesn't think it's hurting anyone. Have you ever heard the saying 'what you don't know won't hurt you?' This is a statement that some females who play the role of the other woman live by. They feel that as long as nobody knows (especially the wife) what they're doing, it's okay. As a result, this woman will never stop seeing the married man until things blow up.
#3 She loves the money. Some women barter sex for money. This exchange is as old as the bible. As a result, if a man has a lot of cash that he's willing to spend on her, the other woman will go for it without any regret. It's not that she want's to hurt anyone or even be the other woman, she just needs help paying her bills.
#4 She believes all men are dogs.You'd think that a woman who thinks so lowly of all men wouldn't wind up in a dirty affair. However, this idea is wrong. Because she thinks all men are dogs, she expects very little from them - including faithfulness. So it seems natural to her that a married man would cheat since that's what all men do anyway. If you ask her about the wife, nine times out of ten she'll tell you about the number of times she's been cheated on by a man. It's her justification for her actions.
#5 She needs to feel powerful. This point is where I believe Monica Lewinsky falls. Sleeping with the President of the United States probably lifted her self-esteem and made her feel powerful. It's a trap women fall into who like to sleep with high-profile men. They get their energy and life from an accomplished man instead of finding other ways to build themselves up.
In conclusion, the other woman might just be holding onto a married man for reasons outside of love. She has her own agenda and unless it's upset in some type of way, she will never let go.
Did you know?
Monica Lewinsky capitalized on her infamy by writing a book and starting a business. She even had a website. So where is she today? According to a January '07 report, job hunting. Hopefully by now, she's found a job.
Published by Stephanie Modkins
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Post a CommentI just can't help being with a married man. I try to stop but we work together and we see each other everyday. He makes me feel special, more than my boyfriend does.
I met a man on line 8 years ago (2003)...and have not met him yet. He lives in another state, but I am planning on seeing him in Aug 2011. Its all planned and paid for by my me. (He did offer to pay some, but I didnt accept it. I just want him) We would conversate in the beginning all the time, now we text more than ever. He always made an excuse why I could not come and visit, (school, work, training etc) I just found out 2months ago he got married. I wasn't really shocked, cause most men are cheaters and I knew through the eight years that he talked to other girls. I just like him for who he is and he truely enjoys me, so I appreciate that. Over the years I have devoloped these feelings for him that wont go away over night (yes I love him). I've gotten 2 calls from the other women to stay away from her man but it doesn't affect me....Its not my fault that he has lied to her all this time. I've been waiting patiently for so many years to meet this man and im not gonn
I believe a married man would be more so at fault for having an affair. He is the one who vowed to love his wife and be faithful unto her. What I find most disturbing, is the other woman who enjoys sleeping with a married man, for whatever reason. This is something serious. I'm not judging anyone, but it is morally wrong. If it does not not bother you, then it shows a lack respect for both marriage an yourself. It might be exciting and the sex might be great, but who really wants to be known for type of illicit behavior. A real "lady" perfers her own man. Most of time these relationships end badly. Although, the other woman knows what she's getting herself into, the usual outcome is a broken heart and feelings of empitness and bitterness. When she doesn't end up with the man, she might say she doesn't care, but she really does. She's losing a sense of control, companionship, along with other benefits and sometimes love. When you gamble, sometimes you lo
Reading at all the comments here...Id say alot of you ladies are a bunch of whores
Cheating is cheating! No matter if your married or not. You shouldn't cheat. If you can't work out everything in your current relationship, then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with. Yes every relationship has it's flaws. But no one's perfect.
Nowadays people are becoming more aware of what's going on. So keep playing the "victim" ladies, eventually your men will expose you for what you are & give what you deserve. If you are cheating, then you can't accept the responsibility it takes to maintain a relationship.
Also, here's a reality check: If you can't deal with the reality, it will deal with you.
..dumb whores
The sixth reason infact, for the woman is to keep her relation secretely in anyway she seems dating no one because if she date a married man, he also have the apt to keep the secret more than who he dates the woman beside to preserve his marriage and to cover the shame benefit the woman who he cheat with. The bad smart woman in this way unless she disclose the relation, she can cover her ifamous act.
Im married now for second time I cheated on my first and on my current wife both times the girls threw there selves at me what am I going to do I'm not gay both of these ladies where beutifull and younger than me one was 9yrs the other 13yrs both had plenty of chances to be with other men singel and younger with a future cause I always said nothing could ever become of our so called relationship I will be honest I have no guilt of cheating this fact bothers me I understand why its because I don't feel like my wives loved me and being with my lovers made me feel loved I have not been seeing my last mistress for about a month and I want to if I don't I'm going to find another I love and respect women I'm a father have 4 daughters and a step daughter I am also I mama's boy when I say these women threw thereselves that's what I mean they where not the only ones either they where just the lucky ones or unlucky dependends on your point of view I'm sure if I really felt my wives loved me than
Having gone through this ordeal myself...(cheating hubby)..I can honestly say men can get away with treating his mistress like a cheap 'ho' and thrill, whereas he can't do that with his respectable wife.
The wives love to play the victim and chances are they are cheating on their husbands too. Let's not act like a ring can keep a woman find doing what she likes. Then she'll turn around after having her affair and take her faithful husband to court for everything he owns and alienates him from his own children. American women don't know how to keep a husband faithful so these 5 reasons are void if the wife is a loser, which is usually why men cheat in the first place.
I been seeing this married man for severa years and I just don't know why bu when i am with a single guy it is boring.
Well I think the article is right on point. My husband is cheating with this 39 yr old woman (Juana C.) She thinks she is the one calling all the shots. She is in control. She is sadly mistaking. Never been married and planning a marriage with my husband. And I should get a life.