5 Things Guys Look for in a Girl and Relationship

Before I start, let me first say that contrary to popular belief, all guys are actually not the same. As a guy, there are certain things I look for in a girl. Some, you may go, 'obviously'. Others, not as so. Again, my fellow gender beings known for their trouble making schemes and extreme fantasies may not share my view.

1. Beauty- You are probably rolling your eyes at this. But please hear me out. Just because we have a high opinion of good looking women on first sight, doesn't mean it just ends there. Beauty is something that changes in your mind. Someone who is a first class beauty may not hold their spot on the top of our list if she does not get with us. Seeing her everyday, our opinion of her beauty could diminish by the minute and we would then ask ourselves why we were so engrossed in her. Similarly, a girl who would be sitting across the table from us for two months would never cross our minds more than once in a day, but suddenly out of the blue she would really announce her presence and we just can't stop thinking about her. Beauty is not constant, in fact it is downright unpredictable.

2. Personality- Now you're thinking 'yeah right', guys just say that. I don't deny that. To avoid sounding shallow, we always say '...and she needs to have a nice personality'. We pretty much tack it onto whatever it is that attracts us. Realistically, we tend to put up with a lot if the girl is really gorgeous; hell, we even compromise a little. But truth is, there is always a limit. As I said previously, beauty changes. If the girl does not have a good personality, much less her personality does not gel with our's, we move on in the search of that 'perfect' girl. To be fair, we do have a perfect girl we are looking for and settle for a really beautiful one if we cannot find our 'soulmate'. Fact is, we do like girls with a good personality. If they're not physically attractive, we do at least become friends with them. And over time, as our understanding of beauty changes, it may become more than just friendship. Again, beauty is adjusted and with a great personality, a girl's looks can be totally forgotten to the point that you only see the good features of her appearance.

3. Subtlety- I don't want a relationship that suddenly grabs everyone's attention. To me, a turnoff is a girl that constantly advertises her boyfriend as if she has nothing better to talk about. You're probably thinking 'wow, this guy's jealousy is so obvious'. Haha, maybe. But fact is, I would not want to be in that position. I'd want a relationship that is special and not such a big deal to others. I don't want to have to talk about it every living hour. I don't want her inviting me up to her room to meet her friends and answer all their questions and do a little dance for them. Ok, that probably won't happen again. Not sure if the girl was interested in dating me. If she wasn't, I'd hate to think what she would have asked me to do if she were.

4. Freedom- One of the few advantages of being single is that there is no way that you can get whipped. 'Whipped' is the term guys use when their friends are slaving to every need of their ladies. There is just something about this superiority that women have over their boyfriends that I do not find appealing. Maybe I've read one too many stories in which Archie is always desperately trying to please Veronica. I'm probably just more into Betty (although I think she can do better, who wants a red haired ordinary looking guy who lusts after the hot, rich girl?). I won't lie, I'm very much like Archie and fear that I'll find myself in that same situation. It never ends well.

5. Space- This may be the most important thing in any relationship. Everyone needs their space; be it from their friends, spouses, their boyfriend, girlfriend, siblings, and just people in general. I don't know about girls, but if a guy is doing stuff, he's not neglecting you. If anything, maybe he thinks you want your space. If a guy doesn't call one day, your relationship is not over. Far from it. I'm sure he's still thinking about you, maybe planning something fun for the upcoming weekend. At the moment, he's got to be focused on something else, but he hasn't forgotten about you. If you're dating, it's highly probably you have a very special place in his heart and he is not going to want to lose you.