5 Things NOT to Say to Your Guy

A girl knows when she isn't being all that nice. Saying rude and mean things are pretty obvious. No one has to tell you when you're being rude if you are aware of the words that you speak. It happens to the best of us. But sometimes we find ourselves using phrases that cause more harm than good when it comes to our relationships. Most of the time the intention of being nice is there but the outcome is just the opposite. In the beginning these comments may seem harmless to the guy but after hearing them time and time again, he will soon begin to break down. Taking the time to learn what not to say to turn your man, can and will help your relationship in the long run.

1. "You are definitely better than my Ex"

This may seem like a compliment and to some, there is no harm in stating how great of a guy he is compared to your ex's. But when most guys hear these words, they begin to wonder about YOU. If you are the type of girl who dates "jerks" all the time then 9 times out of 10, there might be something wrong with you and not the guys. It's the law of attraction. If all you attract is jerks, then there is a possibility you might be a jerk yourself.

Another problem with this statement is that most men tend to think in a literal manner. Unlike women they read things a little more plainly. If you continue to express to him that he is so much better than your ex's then eventually he will think you will feel the same about him. Once a man begins to think in this manner, he will find a lack of ambition when it comes to building on your relationship. Leaving your ex's in the past is exactly what you need to do, leave them in the past. Never mentioning your ex's will actually have an adverse affect on how he thinks you perceive him. Plus it will make him feel as if nothing before him matters to you any more. This will give him a feeling of importance and a hint of confidence when it comes to your relationship.

2. "Are you sure that's not out of your price range''

When it comes to a man and his money you want to make sure that you walk lightly. Most men's self worth is based off of his financial status. When you begin to question his spending habits, he begins to question his self. Criticizing his ability to handle his money is not only a blow to his man hood but capabilities to take care of his responsibilities.

The one thing you don't want to do is begin sounding like a parent. Questioning what he can and can not afford is more like something his mother would ask him. And no woman wants to sound like her man's mother. Allowing to have complete control over his money will not only make him appreciate you more but it will allow him to feel like the man in the relationship and not your child.

Now, there is nothing wrong with talking about finances. If you are in a joint relationship or if you are involved in a joint purchase then you have all right to talk about money and how it's being spent. But there is a time and a place for this conversation. There is also a certain way you should approach this conversation as well. You can better approach a financial conversation by talking about your budget and spending habits. Having this conversation during a purchase will only cause him to act out against your view point.

Financial conversations should only come if you are in a committed relationship. It's off limits during the dating phase. His money and how he spends it has absolutely nothing to do with you. How you feel about his money is how you feel about his money.As long as your money and his money continue to stay separate, there is no reason for finances to apart of your conversations.

3. "He seems cool, maybe you should become friends."

This may seem like something small to you but to him, this is a big deal. Your intentions were good when you said it but to your guy, he may have felt as if you were pushing him off. The one thing that men don't get along with is his woman hooking him up on man dates. This never goes over well in relationships and you should avoid getting involved in this area. Trying to control his social life and his money are two things you may want to steer clear away from.

Also, trying to make nice between your gut and another guy will only cause problems in the end. He will begin to wonder your motive behind your intent. So let him make his own friends. It will be less of a hassle for not only him but you as well.
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4. "I promised I wouldn't say anything but since it's you....."

When it comes to sharing secrets with your guy, It can not only help make your relationship stronger but it can build intimacy. When we feel as if you are connected through personal information, we begin to feel more connected as a couple. But the one thing that need to remember is that sharing someone else's secrets isn't always a good thing.

Sharing your secrets and someone else's can make or break the potential relationship you may be building with your guy. If you find joy out of telling other people's secrets then he will begin to feel as if he can't trust you with his own. Trust is a huge factor in any relationship and if you don't have it then you have absolutely nothing. Keep other people's secrets to yourself and share your secrets at your own discretion.

5. "Are you crazy? I'm over that stage of my life"

There is nothing wrong with growing up and growing out of things. We all have to grow sometime. But you don't want to come off as boring either. Most men look for spontaneity and adventure. If you can't give that to them then more than likely they are going to venture off somewhere else.

You also don't want to come off as if you are afraid to get crazy with him. This can make any man feel as if something may be wrong with him. Once he begins to feel as if something is wrong with him, he will quickly loose interest. Men get a kick out of knowing that their girl has a social life and is outgoing and mischievous. For some it's a turn on and for others it's just something that spices up the connection. Don't get in the habit of thinking that "conservative," is the way to be. You are fooling yourself if you think this is what's going to keep your man interested.