5 Things that Will Kill a Relationship

People spend a lot of time and effort trying to find ways to develop relationships. Little attention, however, is given to avoiding the things that can destroy a relationship; those things that are considered 'unforgiveable' are often not considered until the sin is committed - too late.

Here are the top 5 deal breakers in almost any relationship.

Dishonesty. "Steal my purse, and I can replace it. Lie to me and you will never be trusted again." My grandmother used to say this, and how right she was. Telling lies is at the root of most relationship breakdowns. If there is something that you don't want your significant other to know, a little white lie might seem the polite thing, but if that lie is ever exposed, it will leave a residue of suspicion about everything you've ever said. Telling the truth, even when it's unpleasant, is the best course in the end.

Humiliation. Next to being dishonest, causing another person to be humiliated in front of others is the second biggest cause of broken relationships. Whether it's a spouse, or just a 'close and intimate' friend, embarrassing that person in the presence of other people is unforgiveable. No matter what he or she has done, the wisest course of action is to ignore it until you both are in some private place where, if it's really that important, it can be addressed away from external eyes.

Abuse. Physically or verbally abusing a person will put nails in the coffin of a relationship. This is related to 'humiliation,' but often it takes place when no one else is around. Physical abuse is illegal and can land you behind bars, but verbal abuse and bullying can be just as devastating on the victim. The 'Stockholm Syndrome' causes many abuse victims to cling closer to their abuser and blame themselves - but, abuse causes the death of a relationship even when there is no physical separation.

Infidelity. It might come as a surprise that cheating is ranked this low in the list, but often you can be forgiven for straying. When it is accompanied by lies, however, it can irreparably damage a relationship. Unless you have a clear understanding going in that you're in an 'open' relationship, be exclusive.

Bad personal hygiene. If you've ever had to be in close quarters with someone who has really bad breath or body odor, you can understand how this can kill a relationship. Even worse is the person who tries to cover the odor up with breath mints or deodorant. What you end up with is a sweet, nasty smell that is often worse than the unmasked odor. Liberal use of soap and water, fresh clothes - and then a light application of scent - is the best way to avoid this pitfall.