5 Ways to Combat Mommy Fatigue

R. M. Dubuc
Mommy fatigue can hit at any point during parenthood. Once your official name becomes "mommy," or "mom," it is often only a matter of time. Mommy fatigue is often characterized by a number of symptoms which shed light on the fact that you may be an overwhelmed mom, who has begun to unwind.

There are ways to prevent or creatively combat cases of mommy fatigue. Mothers who have survived the busy years of raising children are proof that there is hope. Every mother must find their own system for combatting mommy fatigue, but there care some helpful ways to prevent a total downward mental spin.

1. Get a Life

One possible reason contributing to mommy fatigue could be the lack of a social or adult life. It can be difficult to maintain the frequency of spending time with friends or other adults, as it was before you became a mother, but parenting goes much better when you make some time to take care of your own needs.

Life outside of being a mom can feel strange at first. It may be difficult to make it through conversations without thinking or talking about your kids. It gets easier with practice. There are many ways to "get a life" outside of being a parent. Part-time jobs, social dates with friends, clubs, or taking a college course are just a few ways to begin a life outside of motherhood.

2. Allow Yourself to Be an Adult Again

There comes a time when even Bob the Builder and Mickey's Clubhouse can contribute to mommy fatigue. Turn off the cartoons and educational kids shows and watch some grown-up television once in awhile. Plan date nights with a significant other or make time to visit friends. Even an hour a week of adult time can go along way.

3. Take a Break

All mothers deserve a break once in awhile. The problem is finding the time to sneak a few minutes of mommy time while raising children. Rather than trying to rush housework while kids are napping, take a few minutes to rest and recharge. If you are an early riser, plan to get up before the kids to have some alone time. The reverse goes for night owls. Take just an hour each night to plan some mommy downtime.

4. Enlist Creative Help

When mommy fatigue makes you feel like you are overwhelmed, it's time to take a creative approach to enlisting help. Sign the kids up for afterschool activities, play groups, or lessons. Look for other parents to carpool or trade babysitting services. Sometimes it can be worth the twenty dollars for a sitter once a week for a few hours. If you send your kids to lessons or they play on a team, use some of the time to grab a coffee, run a few errands, or shop.

5. Find a Happy Hobby

Part of winning the war against mommy fatigue is finding something to help de-stress after busy or chaotic days. Happy hobbies are those that bring you a sense of well-being. As simple as it sounds, these hobbies make you happy. Internet social groups can be a lifesaver for busy parents, as well as other groups which can link you with others who have lead busy lives.

Balancing your time alone with the responsibilities of parenting, work, and housework is the real challenge. It's worth the effort of preventing mommy fatigue, though. Happy moms do much better than moms who are struggling with neverending mommy fatigue.

Published by R. M. Dubuc

R.M. Dubuc is a counselor, writer, and doctoral student who has published over 400 online articles on a variety of topics.  View profile

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  • Andrea Parker11/12/2009

    Why, yes. Just yesterday I began screaming unbecomingly like a witch. I think this article is definately for me!!

  • Noelle Graf2/13/2009

    Re: "Life outside of being a mom can feel strange at first." No kidding...I remember my first girl's day out a full year after I had my first child. Totally felt like I was cheating on my family, but boy did it help! I find a fabulous hair cut helps, too :)

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