5 Ways to Instantly Attract More Men

Most women don't realize they have everything they need to attract a man. Just the fact that they are women by nature makes them attractive to men. Your natural softness is beautiful to a man. Your smile can ease a man's tension; your laugh can lighten his load. Your tenderness is what a man needs more than anything because the world asks him to be strong and capable. There aren't very many safe places for him to show his vulnerabilities and weaknesses. You are that soft haven he's been needing. Maybe you're not a "10" in your eyes, but here's news to you: Some man out there considers you their ideal woman. Stop watching movies and reading magazines and deciding that what you see there is every man's ideal. Instead, go sit down at a park bench in your city or in the mall and watch couples go by. You'll see every kind of woman out there. Men fall in love with all kinds of women, and while you're sitting there, you'll notice there probably wasn't a Heidi Klum look-a-like who walked by.

I'm going to say this more than once because it is that important. Men love confident women; not haughty or proud, because those kind of women are actually the most insecure. True confidence goes hand in hand with humility. It's your attitude that you are a good catch and someone is bound to notice but at the same time you're also human and flawed and someone's going to notice that too. But in the end, it's okay. You treat yourself and others with love and grace and you expect others to do the same with you. Now here's what to do when you go out in public that will instantly set you above the crowd.

Highlight the feature you are most proud of

So, I'm going to tell you the honest truth. Once you do this, men aren't going to notice, at least not the majority of men, with the exception of your gay guy friends. (but you're not trying to attract them right?) Anyhow, so you're probably asking yourself, Well then, what's the point? The point is that although they won't notice, you will. And when you're highlighting your assets instead of focusing on hiding your flaws, you will meet men with confidence, and again, confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can exude. Men care about your appearance. This is a fact, and the sooner you just accept it, the sooner you'll start caring too, and the sooner you'll be attracting men. Every woman likes something about their appearance. Flaunt it! (In a classy way of course)

Care about your posture

Not only is it a major health concern to have bad posture, it's a major dating concern. When you first meet a man, he doesn't know anything about you, but he will judge you (Give him a break; we all gather first impressions). At this vantage point, since you have yet to say a word, the only thing he can use to judge you is the way you look, and remember how I said that confidence is key? Well, slumped shoulders give the opposite reading. Men value women who value themselves, someone they can be proud of, and if you are afraid to show your face to the world, you give them little reason to take pride in you. Standing up straight tells the world, I'm here. My presence matters. Indeed, your presence will matter to a guy, and he will take notice.

Look men in the eye

The fact is, men have a hard enough time building up enough courage to meet women in the first place. (at least the kind that you want who isn't a pro at playing the field) We make it that much harder when we don't look at them directly. 9 times out of 10 they won't approach you until they've looked you in the eye, so stop dodging their glances! I know it makes you nervous. I know you want to look coy, play hard to get, not look like you're looking. But come on, you are looking. The least you can do is directly look at them. It is the most subtle way to show interest without initiating contact. But don't stop there...

Smile

A smile adds to face value, literally. There are so many attractive women out there who don't smile. It's such a shame, because men instantly will gravitate to someone smiling as opposed to someone just sitting there, either frowning, eyes glazing over, or looking blank. So, knowing this, you're already a step ahead of all those attractive women. A smile tells men, "I love life. I'm happy. I'm confident that life will bring good things my way." Who wouldn't be attracted to happiness and goodness? We all want those things. Smiling also shows confidence because if you smile at someone, there is a chance that they won't return the smile. So you risk a mini-rejection. But the upside is that if you do smile, there's a chance that a man will smile back, and that interaction will give him more confidence to approach you. Some men won't approach a woman simply because they look unapproachable or intimidating. Usually, all this means is that the woman wasn't smiling!

Laugh

When he has approached you, he's probably going to introduce himself and find something witty to say. Whatever it is, however corny it sounds, for goodness sake, laugh at it. Believe me, the jokes will get better with your encouragement (aka laughing). What you are doing when you laugh is increasing his confidence, showing him that you're not going to eat him alive, showing him that you are good company, showing him you have the same kind of humor he does (this is a biggie for most guys even though they usually don't know it) And all in all, making yourself more and more attractive. The sound of a woman laughing is such a great sound for men to hear. You have no idea.

Believe me, these tactics work. Back in high school and college, when I had close guy friends, somehow or another, they would start liking me, and I never considered myself all that attractive. So I asked my older brother for some input on the male species. He said, "You really need to stop spending so much one-on-one time with them. You're leading them on. And while you're at it, stop laughing and smiling so much around them!"