7 Lies Women Tell Husbands and Why

I've been married for nearly 20 years. During that time, I've not been completely honest with my husband. Few women can claim complete and utter honesty, but the dread and guilt I've felt through the years may be unfounded. While women are worried about lies men tell, they are telling the same sort of lies. I lie to keep my marriage on an even keel, but is that reason good enough if he finds out about those lies?

I paid that bill, there must be some mistake. Financial troubles are one of the leading causes of divorce. Nothing good comes out of telling your husband you didn't pay the car payment because money was short this month. We juggle, wiggle and borrow from one bill payment to make another, because that's just how we do it.

I only think about you during sex. Not every encounter in the bedroom is filled with lust and heated passion. When women find their mind's roaming, it's often to a hot celebrity crush or an old flame and husbands never know the difference.

I love you no matter how much weight you gain. If you lose your breath from the car to the front door carrying just one bag of groceries, there is no amount of love that can save your life. I've found over the years that my husband also tells this lie when I gain weight and give up on my health.

I don't mind if you take a nap while I cook dinner. Instead of starting an argument, women often take on the burden of life and family while allowing the husband to spend more time resting, relaxing the recreating. Naps and video games while we are cooking dinner do not make us happy, but we'll tell you we're fine with it to keep you happy.

The kids don't love me more; they're just more used to me being around. My husband worked 60 hours or more per week in corporate America, completely blind to the fact that his children did not love him as much as they loved me. Kids know what they see and if they don't see dad around it's natural to love mom more.

I stay at home with the kids because I want to. No woman wants to give up an education and fulfilling career to take care of children in the home. Many wives, however, lie to their husbands for an entire lifetime because they feel staying at home is what they are supposed to do.

My life is perfect just the way it is. No life is perfect. There is always room for improvement. Whether your yearly income is $10,000 or $100,000, there are changes both big and small that would inevitably make your life better. Women tell this lie to protect them from the reality in which they live.

Being a wife of nearly 20 years and a mother of four, I've spent a good amount of time lying. There are times when the truth does nothing but stir up bad feelings and life is too short to spend fighting about the what ifs, could haves and should haves that brought me to where I am today.

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