7 Reasons to Not Have Children!

This may not become one of the most popular articles I have ever written, but I may fall easily under one of them most important. Allow me to be very personal with you. Have you ever seen someone and thought that this person should not be a Parent? Have you yourself gotten pregnant only to suddenly realize that you can't stand being a Mother or Father? Do you know anyone in your Circle of Friends or Family Members who have abandoned, abused or neglected their Child?

Every Parent feels overwhelmed from time to time. We all question the wisdom of us having kids at one point or the other. I am not talking about the natural worries that come with being a Parent; I am talking about those that truly should not have kids. Please keep an open mind while reading this Article and consider for your self how many lonely, hungry, hurt and lost Children are right here in the USA everyday. Perhaps a bit of prevention would be just as important as trying to fix the Well after the Child has already fallen into it.

1. You can barely feed yourself and keep a roof over your head.

This may seem very harsh, but I still see this more often then not. Women getting pregnant while they are already having problems taking care of their own necessities, not even to mention the additional cost which will arise when the baby is born. Consider even before that important day arrives how much more money you will require for prenatal care, doctor check-ups etc.

It is one thing when you are already pregnant and then fall into hardship. Sometimes it can not be prevented due to unforeseen problems, but when you are already on Welfare for one reason or the other, only have barely enough to pay your rent and often don't have enough money left over for food, this is not the time to bring a baby in.

Please ask yourself if you are happy in this situation first. Do you really want to bring in a Baby into this situation? As a Parent it will be your first responsibility to make sure your child will ALWAYS have what she/he needs. I didn't say want, I said need! That includes decent food, decent clean clothing, a secure roof over the head and a fairly safe environment. Not something you can guarantee if you are close to living on the Street yourself.

2. You are doing or a living with someone that is doing drugs or is an alcoholic.

I truly don't care about what you do to your own body, but when you bring an innocent life into it, then the picture changes. An unborn baby doesn't have a choice when it comes to "eating" of its Mommy. When you are doing drugs or are an alcoholic you are feeding the same junk to your baby. It will have to develop with those cravings. I am not going to tell you that your child will be born with birth defects etc., your doctor will explain you the chances on all of that when you do get pregnant. You may even get lucky and your baby will come out completely healthy or appear to be so, but think about it for a second. You are slowly killing yourself. You already know that and you don't care about it. What will happen to your child when you are gone? Where will it go? Who will protect your Baby while you are out getting high or drinking until you don't know up from down? What about the sort of people you are involved with? Do you really want to give them access to your small one? What about those times when your child needs you? Can you guarantee that you will be "there" enough to help him or her? Do what you want, but please don't have kids until you have sorted your own life out first. We don't need another child on the street or as a teenage prostitute. We don't need another baby forgotten somewhere.

3. You are climbing the social latter and barely have time.

As important as it is to be able to support your baby, to keep it from harms way as best you can and to not have it around drugs and alcoholics, it is just as important to be able to have time for the little one.

If you are chasing the golden Rainbow, are a workaholic or can not stop your daily routines for anything then you don't need a baby either. I understand both parents having to work just to make ends meet. Sadly in these days we often couldn't make it, but when your Baby is born you will need to be able to spend time with the little one. If your idea of raising a child is having it constantly with a Relative, a child care provider or a Nanny, then please don't. Your Baby needs YOU, the Parent. Yes, work but make sure you have plenty of time to devote to your child. Which means a high social calendar is no longer able to be kept. If that is what is required for your happiness, then you are better off having a Teddy Bear or a Dolly. You will make a great Auntie or Uncle, but not a Mom or Dad.

4. You have no patience, are easily angered or are constantly bored.

A child will try your patience more than anything you have ever encountered in life. No matter how good of a child it is, sooner or later it will get under your skin. If you are a violent person that is prone to be easily angered, then you really shouldn't have a child. You can hurt a child easily with your superior strength and you can do some major damage without meaning to. Just think, you are almost a giant in their eyes. The same goes for easily bored. A child is not a Game you can play for a while and disregard when you are bored with it. It will be a lifetime (yes it goes on even after they turn 18 Years) "Career" you are taking on and not an easy one at that. The hours suck, the pay is horrible, your vacation is almost none, you will have much more output then you will ever have income, but if you love what you are doing the benefits are fantastic.

5. You are a baby yourself or still immature.

No matter how good your intentions may be and how much you love your Partner, when you are 14 Years old you are still a Baby yourself. You can't get a job, you haven't even finished school yet and you know very little about real life. I know you are looking at your love lasting forever, but trust me when I tell you that after you had the Baby it won't. It will change and in the best case scenario your mother will end up having to raise your child, while you finish school and get a job. But that time your kid is already 4 and going to kindergarten. Do you really want that to happen? Even those a bit older are not necessarily more mature. If you can't think past your busy social life, if you can't wait to go out and party or shopping, you are not ready to have a child yet. Having a baby means settling down and making cuts in your own fun. If that doesn't sound like something you are ready to do, perhaps you should wait a little while longer.

6. You are not planning on sticking around

It used to be the fathers making the baby and then taking off, these days the mothers are just as liable to pull that particular magic trick. If you are not planning on taking care of your child, if you think it is just a throw a way item or you are not sure if you will hang in there when the going gets tough, then please use preventive measures. A baby needs a Mommy and a Daddy even in today's age. If you are not sure you will be around tomorrow, don't have the Baby.

7. You are terminally ill.

Ok, this sounds heartless, but it is not meant to be. If you or your life partner is terminally ill, meaning he or she are going to die very soon, please don't have a baby. I know that it is a human instinct to want something that will remind you of the love you have shared with that person, but think of the Baby. This little life is being created already knowing that either the Mommy or the Daddy will be gone. Not might be gone, but will be gone. You are bringing a life into the world to fill a void that it will be never able to fill. There is a good chance that when you look at this little life you may feel more pain that you will have bargained for.

I am certain there are many who will disagree with me on those points, and yes I agree that there are as always exceptions to every Rule, but in the norm these are good and sound Reasons you should avoid having a baby until the circumstances change.

Please think carefully before you act. Using a preventative measure may be bothersome at that moment, but having a Baby you don't want or can't care for properly in the end will become much more then just a bother. Please love your unborn child enough to make sure you are going to be at least a decent Parent.