Its all over the news, all on the radio and all out in public ears. We always hear women repeat the do's and don'ts about a Type A man and a Type B man. But isn't there a such thing as, vice versa?
Let's be real with ourselves here.
Were all adults, so no point in keeping the bones in the closet like we used to in our adolescent days, right? With all do respect, there are certain things that need to be discussed amongst our relationships. As adults, once again, we often stress to our children and people around us about the importance of dealing with problems when they occur, correct?
We don't really do that, do we? Some of us take a band-aid, lay it overtop of some problem or issue that's concerning us, and go about our business. Then these problems start to arise again, and we often wonder why.
Hello, man.
It is this specific bad-habit that many of us are known for. Hopefully with a little help, we won't have to hide anymore because we'll know the truth. That being, that there are some women out there whom we have to learn to say "N-O." to.
Hopefully after reading this passage you'll be able to
* Identify specific characteristics and avoid them.
*Learn to say N-O.
*Offer some insight and opinion for a future topic within the AC community.
Man, I journey you to challenge yourselves, get deep within your thoughts and relate back to some of your experiences.
Woman type #1 -"Your not good enough."
Anything you do is simply not good enough. Even when you try to be perfect, its still not good. If you were to drive 65 mph in a 55 mph zone, it's too fast. If you reduced speed and drove 45mph in a 55mph zone, its too slow. Nothing seems to work unless they are done according to her standards. Despite if the situation seems irrelevant or not, if its off by the slightest decimal or centimeter she erupts.
Why not?: Because if you keep trying to impress or lead to her standards you'll end up hurting your ownself by trying to be perfect. If we were all perfect we wouldn't have erasers on pencils. Do not allow yourself to fall victim to avoiding mistakes in order to live a picture perfect life. The result is quite nasty, not to mention, it isn't "you."
Woman type#2 - "You should take me shopping."
You should take her shopping, take her out, take her to the movies, take her to Las Vegas and maybe take her to hell if she keeps on. It's ironic that many of us continue to fall for this flattering and mysterious type of woman. She's never around or available until she needs a lift, needs some money or a good night because her boyfriend hurt her feelings. It's a trap, man, stay away.
Why not?: You'll probably end up depressed and strung out over a situation that really isn't worth it. Why invest your time in someone who isn't able to offer you some of the same courteous actions? She laughs behind your back every time and tells her girlfriends how "nice" you are, but just not to good enough to date.
Woman type #3 - "Mysterious and Ominous"
She never seems sure of whom she is or she's too guarded to disclose who she is. There's nothing wrong with taking your time when getting to know a person, but there's a difference between the 'right' time, and a lifetime.
Why not?: It'll be the same as trying to saw a chain link in half with a saw; there's a chance that it may happen, but no guarantee. You'll spend an eternity in wonder. Also, this leaves you open to a lot of game play or as in boxing, 'pot-shoting,' where your opponent continuously picks you off with punches you seem too slow to respond to.
Woman type #4 - "My friend said I should…"
We all need somebody to lean on, but we shouldn't leech off of others thoughts and apply them to our own personal feelings. We ask to seek advice, not a solution. We listen to learn, not to know it all. Thus, when problems arise, it's difficult to really reach out to someone who always reflects upon the decisions of the people around them.
Why not?: Don't do that to yourself. Every time an argument occurs you'll spend so much time hearing what everyone else thinks instead of what she has to say. The result is bitter frustration.
Woman type #5 - "Baby Daddy."
She's got a great physique; great personality and her feet are pretty too! There's only one problem though, she's got a pretty large amount of children with assorted baby-daddies. One lives just 6 miles north of you, the other 4 miles to the south and one 3 miles just east of your address. You're surrounded.
Why not?: As soon as something goes down, you'll be the first point of attack. Either that or you'll be a part time lover. Be cautious, allowing yourself to keep enough distance to observe the situation before pursing.
Woman type #6 - "Liberal spender."
Spend, spend, spend, but whatever happen to save, save, save? Everything is such a breeze and an enjoyable feat; great attitude to have, but when does reality ever kick in? Unless you have the thousands of dollars to backup that ferocious credit card debt, such liberal spending is a disaster, especially if you were to move in together.
Why not?: Just imagine moving in with this type of person. You would worry about the rent and utilities being paid too often. Too many priorities are based on looking fly, rather than keeping the A/C in the summer on high. Going after the things you want isn't a crime, but neither is being cheap.
Woman type #7 - "You should be more like me."
She'll try to make you feel small; like you need a ladder to pickup a dime. As long as you remain behind her, she can keep a close eye on you to make certain you don't excel past her. That way, its much easier for her to take cheap shots at you.
Why not?: It might be quite annoying to have to deal with someone who can't accept you for who you are. Everything is solely based on how well you matchup to their standards instead the originality of your very own.
Woman type #8 - "You just met her, and already she wants to go for a ride."
You know what I am talking about, and don't act like this is new to you. There are some women out there who do this. There's no time to get to know you for who you really are; there's no care. Maybe afterwards, depending on how good you perform. You leave yourself open to many of things by pursuing women of this creed.
Why not?: Just imagine how many guys have already been there and done that?
It's your choice; don't say I didn't tell you so.
It's quite difficult to say no, but much easier to say yes. The opinion of this article isn't necessarily to discourage you. There are several characteristic traits that both men and women possess. It's not essential, and no guarantee that you'll meet someone who is a complete 100% matchup. All relationships require work, but yet, there are some relationships that are doomed to fail from the get go.
I just hope I was able to highlight that out for you.
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11 Comments
Post a Comment"Your" not good enough? Seriously?
This is good for men to know. I think women can be more dangerous than men because most people don't find women threatening.
Nothing in this world is more dangerous than violent and crazy woman.
As soon as I read: Woman type #1 –“Your not good enough.†I immediately stopped reading. Learn the difference between "your" and "you're".
DateDaily also has an article on this very topic, except that there's 10 women on that list: http://datedaily.com/dating/top-10/27-women-men-should-avoid-dating/
Yawn, everyone knows this stuff already by now. Women and men are not so different, why? Because they all have something to say about the other sex, and yet they can't go without each other. And you all know that anyway, so the rules for men apply for women as well and so on!!
Jerrell your article is correct. What bothers me most about these types of women is how quick they are to "justify" their behaviour. How many times have we heard, "Men do this all the time" or "Men act this way". "Two wrongs don't make a right", it is a trite saying...but like so many others it is true, and more and more people in general are dismissing this concept. Another thing I noticed was a lack of bitterness and anger in your writing. You seem to understand that not all women are this way. You are simply stating facts...as you have observed them (experienced them). We need more of this open and honest type of communication from both men AND women. Excellent article. Keep up the good work.
Its funny that you label a gender 2 the issues you have discussed in relaying your 8 points 2 avoid & though you have posted some relevant concerns I dare say that each of your subject positions can be applied 2 men as well. Hence it is not so much a gender issue rather it is one of character. There are men that mirror you are warning men 2 avoid. Example Type 5, 6, 7 & 8 in men Type #5 "the breeder" he got baby mamas all over & prides himself his ability 2 impregnate women. Type #6 is the spend drift, that has no savings. Type #7 is the controller that dictates life for which nothing she does is good enough & he never celebrates her achievements. Type #8 is the moocher that moves & contributes nothing. 2 say the 8 types of issues are gender specific is 2 easy & negates personal responsibility & accountability. If gender were a motivating facto r then all women & men would be the same. The diversity exists because of choice, individual self-governing, philosophies, ethos & value s
Its funny that you label a gender to the issues you have discussed in relaying your 8 points to avoid and though you have posted some relevant concerns I dare say that each of your subject positions can be applied to men as well. Hence its not so much a gender issue but rather on of character. I mean know men that mirror the very characteristics you are warning other men to avoid. Example Type 5, 6, 7 & 8
Type #5 is attributed to the men known as "the breeder" he got baby mamas all over the place, most of which he does not take care of, hasn't' seen in years and prides himself on being able to get women pregnant. i.e. his self-esteem is in his penis and at the bottom of a vagina
Type #6 is like the men that invest in material things, designer clothes, shoes, car etc, never thinks about tomorrow and have not savings or investments with an eye to the future and lives relatively the same way when living together i.e. he lives as though he is single.
Type #7 is like the men
nice article, I'm glad a man was brave enough to come out say woman can be pretty nasty too! We always hear about bad men but little about bad woman. This is coming from a woman by the way. Best of luck with your writing.
Man you have got it totally right- and that's coming from a woman!!!