9 Steps to Become a Flirt Expert

Neil Strauss, the author of the bestseller "The game", suggests 9 steps to become an expert in the art of attracting and seducing the man of your dreams.

1. Learn the art of the visual contact. Don't be ashamed to look him in the eyes, but learn to do it right. Look first at one of his eyes, then to the other and look at his mouth while he speaks. Don't hesitate to look him in the eyes continuously; the studies shown that there are needed 13 right blinks from a woman to conquer the desired man.

2. Don't lose yourself in conversation. Try to look natural, talk as much as it's needed and listen to him even more. Ask questions about him, this will make him feel important.

3. Exercise the body language. Keep your eyes on him and prove that you know what you want. Pay attention, you can be easily detected if you're not natural in your moves; try them in other contexts before dating with the man you want to seduce.

4. Don't think too much before speaking. Be natural, don't make too many long breaks in conversation; many times, people seem false when they say things at which they thought too much.

5. Ask for his help. Nothing will make him feel prouder than the fact that he will feel useful. Ask him to help you in choosing a gift for a closed relative of yours, ask him to open a bottle that has a too tight lid or just ask for his advice on a certain matter.

6. Establish a deadline. Don't prolong too much your first discussion; invent a reason or a thing to do even if it doesn't really exist.

7. Tease him. An important law in the art of seduction says that you mustn't agree totally with your date partner, or, even if you are, to tell him when he says something: "Oh, sure." smiling and teasing him. He will answer right away.

8. Don't have expectations and don't think too far. Women have the tendency to imagine scenarios such as:"It will be so good when we'll be lovers and we'll do all sorts of things together." These scenarios create tension and you will not be able to focus. Think at him as a simple friend, who, of course, you want to seduce.

9. Have fun and show this to him! Don't be very serious even if he is. Show him that you feel good, tell jokes even if he won't do it; he will appreciate your good mood. What man doesn't want next to him a happy woman?

Sources: Neil Strauss- "The Game", www.artofseductions.com, www.seductionbook.com