A Black Woman's Response to Why Black Men Choose to Date Women Outside Their Race

The African American men of my generation and generations before me choose to now identify themselves as "Having made it" by acquiring a taste for women of other races while painting the Black women to be an angry woman with an attitude. Before I begin, I will state that I am in no way against interracial dating. I have peeked around the bush in my life although it was not for me. I have no problem with those who choose to date outside their race for the sake of love, but for those who do it for status are totally off base. It is unfair that just because a man chooses another race he has to dignify it with the statement that "sistahs" have attitudes and are angry, well let us address this issue.

Why do you believe that some women not just Black women are angry? Could it possibly have anything to do with the constant slew of African American men who thrive on being addicts, undercover brothers, pimps, playas, or hustlers? The majority of African American women who have dated five or more African American men have had at least two of these men. At what point is a woman supposed to feel hurt, anguish, and distrust? It is an automatic negative when a woman enters a new relationship and proceeds with caution; she is accused of bringing baggage into the relationship and blaming the new person for what the old person has done. An African American woman after being hurt will proceed with caution in future relationships, if the male does not throw up many red flags, he will be okay. It is unfair for a man to ask a woman to be all his while he continually misses phone calls, never return calls, cell phone turned off at convenient times, unknown females calling the phone at all hours of the night, and even come up missing for days. When is it okay for a woman, any woman to tell this man that she is no fool and can smell a Wolf in Sheep's clothing?

For those who choose to go on and say that they choose other races over another why would you do that? Is it because you intentionally set out to run over and take advantage of women and you see other races as easy targets? How unethical is that? You should seek a spouse for love not for naivety. It is unfair to those women that you are dating because you are with them under false pretenses. Furthermore, it is the African American women that you creep off to sleep with at two o clock in the morning while your trophy is at home tucked in bed, fast asleep.

African American women are screwed over double in their relationships and in the workplace and all which we ask is that our home be a place of serenity, free from scandal. In return we fulfill our duties of financial comfort, hot meals, back rubs, great intercourse on an unlimited basis. Why is it not okay after all that we offer, to ask one simple question to our men without being labeled disgruntled or angry? We take a lot from our men and we continue to stand strong and support them in every way. Trust me the pick of the litter is not very great. By the time, a good man with a decent job, education, and morals is found he is usually off the market. I want Black (African American) to one day be a good thing in this country. If we continue to tear each other down, how can we ever expect others to respect us? We have to learn to find the good in each other and stop labeling each other as a whole because we are unique in our own ways. There are good Black men and good Black women in addition there are many bad individuals in both groups. Separate the good from the bad and move on.

Footnote:

I wrote this article because I continually see articles that paint a imperfect picture of African American women. It is time that someone stood up and said enough is enough. I have no issues with people who choose to love other races for love but I do have a huge issue with those who seek out others because they feel as if they are easy targets. Furthermore, a bad man is a bad man no matter who he dates.