A Book Review: The Language of Love & Respect

I myself have been married four years, and consider my marriage very solid, and i have found in this book many practical strategies on how to better communicate and love my wife. Beyond strategies, Dr. E. brings out the heart of the matter in a few of the chapters, and really shows us how to respond when in our hearts we truly desire to love and respect our spouses.

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What will stick with me is the time he spent talking about decoding the words of your spouse. Understanding how your spouse communicates will determine what you hear and how you respond to it. This book is worth the money if you just skip through to the chapters where he talks on this subject.

Another point of interest is his time spent on clarification. Too often, arguments are built upon a misunderstanding or miscommunication, which could have been avoided, had one decided to clarify what was actually being said. His explanation and practical how-to's prove to be very valuable.

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As an avid reader, I found some of his illustrations and writing style, though successfully capturing what he is trying to say, tends to be disengaging. I assume he is trying to drive home his point to be as clear as possible, but for me it bogged the book down and made it harder to read than it needed to be.

Also,I felt the book was longer than it needed to be. There was a lot of repeated content that didn't need to be entered multiple times, and over-illustrated some of his points. Once I grabbed the gist of what he was trying to say, I simply skipped ahead to his next point. I did this quite often.

In Conclusion

Overall, I do recommend this book. Whether your marriage is smooth-sailing or on the rocks, this book will enhance or drastically improve communication with your spouse, and if it doesn't, as Dr. E. would say, you would still do well to honor God by honoring your spouse unconditionally by the words you speak to him/her.

*This book was provided for free by Thomas Nelson Publishers in exchange for my honest and unbiased review.