A Girls Guide to Falling in Love

Sometimes we find ourselves in strange situations. Falling in love with your best friends guy falls into this category. So how do you tell your best friend you have fallen in love with her man?

First you must be sure that you are in love with him, and ask yourself is this confession worth the consequences? Is there any chance he feels the same about you? Are you sure this feeling is love? Could it be possibly a crush? The reality is, if you tell your best friend you are in love with her man, she is probably going to be upset with you, possibly upset with him, and she most likely won't trust you anymore.

If there is a chance you will have a relationship with the guy, you have to entertain a few possibilities. Is this woman really your best friend? If you are developing a relationship with her man, I would guess she really is not your true best friend. If she is really your true best friend, you are a really rotten best friend... With your confession of love, what do you expect or wish to happen. Are you telling her just for honesty, or in the hopes of being with the guy? Do you really want to hurt your best friend? This confession will hurt her, and injure her trust level in you, if it is not approached properly.

When we fall in love, it is natural to tell our best friend first. When you are in love with your best friends husband or boyfriend, that seems impossible to share. As it should be. To fall in love requires more than laying eyes on someone. Most relationships are built on love, trust, and factors such as compatibility. How do you know you are in love with this guy? If he would mess around with you, behind your best friends back, is it possible he will do this to you at some point? Is this really a guy you want in your life, or your bed?

Telling your best friend you are in love with her man, is really a bad idea. You should value a friendship this serious more than that. If he would leave her for you, think of the effect it will have on your friendship. If he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, or he isn't aware of how you feel, then maybe you should not bring it up. There are literally hundreds of millions of available men. As the saying goes "There are other fish in the sea," I would advise you to forget your best friends man, and seek out another mate.

If you cannot live without telling your best friend how you feel, be prepared for some awkward moments. Maybe you could try an approach like "Don't get upset by this. I think you are so lucky. Your boyfriend is great, and I have a little crush on him." If this doesn't appeal to you, try saying " You are my best friend, and I love you. However, I also love your boyfriend, and I thought you should know."