A Guide to a Successful Loving Relationship/Why They Are Just Not into You?

There are so many women out here today searching for what they refer to as a good man. It seems however when they find one they let him go saying there was no chemistry.

The next thing most women do when they are having problems with their male counterpart they go to another woman for help.

This is a major mistake if you are a woman having a problem with a man, go to a man with the problem and guys if you're having a problem with a woman go to a woman to get advice.

To often a woman will go to another woman a close friend to get advice with her man problems and the advice is almost always wrong.

The next point I want to make is that most of us tend to select the same person over and over again, they may have different faces and different names but inside they are the same.

Men that have been burned repeatedly by the trophy woman hanging on his arm will go get another one only to get hurt again and again, the same goes for women, they get the same bad man over and over again to the point they consider all men bad thus the saying there are no good men left. There are good men left you just don't feel you have any chemistry with him. I will talk about this later.

The next thing I will address is women you like to talk, talk about your feelings, most men want to hear it but not all the time and not all negative, which most of the time when a woman wants to share her feelings with her man it comes off negative.

The next area is the person male or female that is to easy going and just let their mate walk all over them, in this world today with people having so little respect for one another, if your partner is just not that into you they will take advantage of your kind nature.

What is the answer to these examples I just gave, Don't ignore the signs most of the time we get a sign of some kind but we ignore them because we feel so attracted to this person we feel this person will change for us. Sometimes that might happen but most of the time it won't

Physical attraction is alluring but we should not let it allow us to make bad choices what good is it if you have a great looking partner that has no respect for you? Chemistry is of the flesh which is why you should steer away from physical attraction as your major deciding factor in choosing a mate.

Choose a mate that has similar interests to you. If you a Church going woman choose a good Church going man that knows how to treat a woman that has respect for woman. As I stated earlier in this world today we do not respect one another any more, we are out to get all we can and don't care who we hurt in the process.

I don't want to get into preaching but people listen closely, if your mate cannot love God cannot acknowledge the true love of God who brought them into existence how can they love you?

Women there are good men left and I hear it so much when I point out a good relationship I see going on between a good man and a woman, the woman almost all of the time will say, "Oh he is a great guy but he is like a brother to me, I'm just not attracted to him in that way."

The same goes for men, especially men, because most men are visual and we choose a mate most of the time by the way she looks, then we look at her other attributes and then sometimes it just comes down to the looks and the sex and that relationship almost always fails, which adds to the where are all the good men and women?

The good man and woman are right in front of us but they might be shorter than we would like or skinner, or heavier or some other superficial thing which keeps us away from our true blessing.

Then there are the Christians that believe God will send them the perfect person with all the superficial garbage we want in our so called mate, but the Lord does not look at a person from the outside he looks at the heart of a person, so the person he might send you might be the exact opposite of all of our superficial wants but will truly love us from within.

To have a successful loving relationship we must learn to first respect ourselves and each other. That is the number one reason why relationships don't work today is due to lack of respect. If you respect your mate and honor you mate and love you mate you could not and would not cheat on them or treat them in any disrespectful manner.

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