A Man's Guide to Club Dancing

Ever heard the saying "Men who can dance well are pimps"? (Or whatever variation of it). Guess what boys, it's true, depending on the girl of course, but most girls are swept off their feet by dancing.

I once had a girl run after me when I walked out of a mixer (like a club but for high schoolers) after I had freaked with her for the last portion of my night. I had not said a word to her except "Slow down and follow me". She literally ran after me when the mixer ended, gave me her number, and told me to come over.

I've had girls wet their pants down to their knees before (Not like pissing... like how guys have precum, girls have pre orgy). If you remember why you have precum, it's because you're horny. Same with girls, get em horny and you're good to go.

There are many guys at a club who can't dance for crap, if you learn how, then you already set the girl up for a nice surprise.

Anyways, dancing is really fun. Let's begin.

Beginners section

The Music
The very first thing you need to know about dancing is the MUSIC. It is hard to dance to a song you have never heard of, you won't know how the beat goes, what happens next or ANYTHING. If you're going to a disco, make sure you know a bunch of major disco songs (Michael Jackson, Earth Wind And Fire, BeeGees, etc), or if you're into the modern dance scene, that would be hip hop (Main stream, bay area hyphee whatever). It would be good if you knew the song enough to be able to tap out the beat, enough so that when it comes on you will get a nice high feeling and start moving your body.

Bottom line, if you know the song and like it, you will be more comfortable moving to it.

The Approach

Approaching a girl at a club or whatever is EASY. This is the one time when you don't have to think of anything for an opener, shit you don't even have to say anything. There are a few ways to approach her.

1. Conservatively - You can actually ask if they want to dance if they are alone or what not, introduce yourself whatever, this is sort of a normal cold approach except you don't have to think too long term, introduce and get out on that dance floor.

2. If a girl is already on the dancefloor, this would likely be the best method.

A. Make eye contact/smile with said girl (Optional, but a plus).

B. Start moving or better yet, dancing (I'll explain more in the advanced section) towards said girl(Obviously, this is a required step).

C. Start dancing face to face with distance for however long you feel is needed for comfort (IMO, this stage doesn't last more than 5-10 seconds.) (OPTIONAL).

D1. Grind in front of her, your back to her front as if you were the girl and she the guy, after a bit of this move to her back.

-OR-

D2. Just start grinding your wang on her ass.

You now have a girl.

The part that takes skill ... the actual dancing part

Almost anything goes on the dance floor if you can pull it off, so don't take what I say as concrete, these are just basics.

As I said before, the music SHOULD make you feel like moving, if not then you're too tense, go do some jumping jacks, loosen up, and let go!

Your feet: Don't really have to do much, they can stay planted on the ground for all I care.

Your knees: you're sort of 'bouncing' you your knees should be bent at all times, and the angle you bend it should always be adjusting.

YOUR HIPS (PAY ATTENTION THIS IS THE IMPORTANT PART): Many times I'll see people grinding and they are doing some really lame stupid shit. For example: Moving their hips back and forth as if you were dry humping (theres a place for this, but until you know what you're doing don't try.) Moving their hips side to side (Okay, you're getting better, but this isn't entertaining forever)

The best way to move your hips is in an 'oval motion' with a snap heres a diagram: [img]

(Note: snap does not mean snap your finger, it means kinda snaplike motion to your hips' oval.)

The speed of your hips and the snap are entirely based on the beat of the song, which is why you need to know your music.

Your body: Your body pretty much does whatever it feels like doing to a song, you'll know what I'm talkin about, just turn up some hip hop and blast the bass.

Your hands: YOUR HANDS ARE ALWAYS IN MOTION moving throughout her body. Start with harmless places like her forearms, outside of thighs. Move onto more sensual spots like inside of thigh, side of her body. If you get to a really heated point in dance, all areas are open. just don't stay too long in one area. Be creative, lift up her arms, keep your hands roaming throughout her body.

Your head: Tilt your head towards her neck. Breath on her neck, make a concious effort if you have to.

Those are the basics for you that will set you above all the idiots that just keep their hands on her thighs and only move their hips side to side or front and back.

REMEMBER: VARY YOUR ACTIONS. If you do any one thing for too long, it will become boring.

If you're a healthy straight male, having a girl rub her ass all over your crotch should give you at least half an erection. This is fine, just don't go jamming it into her asscrack too soon.

Breath on the back of her neck. (Remember to do this one, it's a small detail but works wonders. Girl have really sensitive back of necks.)

Dip down, bend your knees so you're ass is to the ground, you're going to need strong legs for this so go hit that squat rack. You'll need even stronger legs to be able to keep rockin' your ass while you go down and rock back up.

If she is wearing tight jeans, scratch the inside of her thigh

Push-pull applies here also, if you're running out of things to do while grinding, back off a bit, get in front of her and dance there, then go back to the back. If you want you can push pull and tease her with kissing.

Follow the damn beat. That is what makes dancing so awesome. Sometimes girls have no sense of rythm and just try to rub their ass on your crotch as much as humanly possible. In cases like this, just whisper(Or yell it would probably be loud) in her ear to slow the fuck down and follow your lead. Remember you're the man, the girl follows you. In life there are exceptions. In dancing there are no exceptions. The woman follows the man.

Advanced Techniques

Here are some ways to vary up your dances even more.

Again, learn your music even more, Most of the songs I get really freaky to I can rap most of the song. Watch the music videos to the songs, a lot of hip hop songs have some unique movement that only applies to that song (A few that come to mind: Ballin', walk it out, Pop Lock And Drop It, a lot of bay area hyphee music have their own stuff all over)

Learn some exhibition dance moves

This is stuff that you will do in the center of a big crowd, this is a BIG PLUS. It can also be used for your approach.

As for myself, I have some gliding(working on it), popping, c-walking(my main one), Michael Jackson spin(still working on it, hah), Minor break dancing steps and handstands and a backhandstand.

For example, if there is a crowd with a center where people just show off, get in there, it will pump you up.

If not, whenever I walk onto the dance floor, I'll either be gliding in, doing some break dancing steps, or c-walking in. This gets you started and you're not just walking in then start dancing out of nowhere. It also looks cool.

Also In my case, I was dancing with a girl once and I left to go get some water, when I came back I see her dancing with some guy (who couldn't dance for crap he was just rocking side to side) The girl looked at me with a "Please get me away from this guy!" look, i just shrugged and looked around for another girl to dance with, they were all taken, so i just started doing some exhibition with my friends. If you guessed that she came back to me, you're right.

Advanced grinding

Yes, there IS advanced grinding. These are various ways that you can switch up what you're doign so you're not just back to back grinding all night long.

I'm going to start with clubbin' techniques 101:

I have done a few of these, the ones I do the most is:

The Wave. This is sort of an opener, where you're grinding your back to her front, just slam the ground and "wave" up (watch the video for a demonstration)

Fatality. This one is great, it gets the girl hyper cause this is something they won't normally do. You're likely going to need to be grinding a bit for her to let go enough for this to happen, but it's awesome.

Low Back Pain. This is my personal favorite, You're just grinding face to face with the girl (It takes a LOT of skill to be able to keep beat while doing this) While you do this, your knee will naturally slip between her legs (I just happens seriously, the first time I did this, one moment I was just dancing, next thing I know my knee was between her legs) Once your knee is in there, just grab the bottom of her thighs, lean into her, and pick her up. Then you proceed to hump (Front back hip motion) theres really no way you're going to perform any thing else with a girl on your thighs.

Those are the ones I've actually done, there are more, check em out:
http://www.clubbintechniques101.com/

While you're grinding your front to her back, you can sort of do the dip thing that I talked about earlier, then just lean back, support yourself with 1 arm, other hand on her waist, she'll be sitting on your crotch. Have her grind her ass there for a while.

Front to front: It is important to get your knee between her leg. If your knee is not in there then you're not close enough yet. This position is awkward because it's hard to keep beat, but once you do, it's awesome.

~Docs Add-ON, Escalation On The Dance Floor~
I really include the girl in my dance. Sure, you could do you on her back, or face to face, but rarely do I see the girl behind the guy. Even rarer, back to back.

I use those rarer styles of dancing. It adds a LOT of uniqueness to the moment, and even more importantly, the transition to those moves is VERY important.

There is the very easy, side step and move into position.
Even easier (and I notice this very rarely), TAKE HER HAND, and spin her.
Now, take her hand, and spin YOU.
Now, take her hand, and BOTH of you spin.

Now, to transition to a more unique position (such as the back to back, or her behind), you can either half spin her, halfspin yourself, or while you're both spinning, you can half spin, or half spin her.

Oh, a note. She can tell by the way you hold her hand what you want her to do.

Even more variation, push her out, and draw her back in.
Circle around her, hand or not.
Have her circle around you.
'Face Off' and start showing each other up.

It really has no end to the variations you can do.
I consider myself an OK dancer. The stuff I just mentioned is pretty easy to pull off, and it's good goals for the upcoming dancers.

Did I mention it's fun and UNIQUE to add variation?

And just another success note. Kiss her shoulders, neck, and hand (and later, the face/lips). Use your hands to explore, and give attention to her hair.

RWC Addon to Dance Floor Escalation: After grinding for a couple of songs, I find it a great time to start making out with the girl when a not so good song comes on

Pretend to be startin to grind to that not so good song, but instead go for the kiss, and make out for a few minutes till another good song comes on!!!

Conclusion

Be creative. The more your dance, the more you learn, the better you get. Chances are when you're dancing that you will be surrounded by people, watch them if you have the chance, and incorporate it. Everyone has their own style of dancing. Just let go!