A Man's Guide to Setting Up the First Date

So you got her phone number. Great job mate. Seriously. There are a lot of guys that wouldn't have had the guts to ask her for her number anyway. Consider your foot in the door. That's right, you're ahead of the game. However, if you want to stay ahead, you have to make this first date one that she'll remember in a good way. This first date will make or break you but I'll help you along in making her want to see you again.

Call Her!

That phone number is just numbers on a piece of paper and nothing more unless you use it and call her. As far as a rule on how long to wait before you call her, don't worry about it. Know this. The longer you wait to call her, the more likely you are to talk yourself out of calling her. So just suck it up buddy dial the number and press send.

What Do You Say To Her?

First, I'll go over a few of the "don'ts". Do not say the words "I don't care" or "I don't know, whatever you want to do is fine with me". In a woman's brain, those lines translate to, "I don't care what we do or where we go as long as my friends can see you on my arm". Throw those lines out the window. Have an opinion. Don't be bossy but be confident and know what you want. If you're not the confident or sure of yourself type, this lady will pick up on the fact that you're not fast. Have a plan on what you want to do with her and where you want to take her. For example, if you want to take her to dinner, say something like, "I thought it would be nice to take you out to dinner Wednesday night.". If you want to meet her for a cup of coffee, just say to her something like, "I've been craving a Mocha Latte lately, would you like to meet me for a cup before work tomorrow morning?". Here's a tip. Try to pick a date that promotes being interactive. Avoid movies, concerts or plays. Pick something interesting and fun. Do your best to avoid situations where an audience might be shushing you and avoid the risk of getting your and/or her nose broke in a mosh pit.

Get To The Point

Don't be telling her your life story. She has no interest in hearing how you used to dress up in mommy's clothes when you were a child and lip sync, Doris Day songs in the mirror. She's not your therapist so don't treat her like one. Even if you're sort of a mysterious guy by nature, revealing too much about yourself is just asking for trouble. Think of it. If she knows everything about you, what does she have left too look forward to? That first phone call shouldn't be more than five minutes. Say hello, make a bit of small talk, set up the date and exit. In and out like a bank robber. The longer you're on the phone with her, the more likely that you're going to say something stupid.

Don't Be Too Available But Be A Bit Flexible.

If you want to hang out with her on Wednesday night but she has plans, don't give up. If she's really interested in seeing you, she'll likely suggest another night. However, if she says that she has plans on Wednesday night but is free Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, tell her that you're busy on Thursday and Friday but can see her on Saturday. You don't' want her to think that you have no life and no friends. Now if she doesn't suggest an alternate evening for the date, be cool and just say, "No problem, maybe some other time." Call her back in a couple of days, if she still can't decide on a night, go find another cutie to take out. I always say to give a girl two chances to go out with you and nothing more. If you keep pressing, you'll end up creeping her out. The last thing you need is a restraining order out on you.
Just Relax

Half the battle is already won. You have to go through the hard part now. So take her out, show her the time of her life and hopefully, you'll give her a great night to remember. In the process, you might find out there's more to this lady than her killer body. Good luck mate.