A Mother's View on Adoption and Gay Couples

I am a mother of two and a Christian. I recently read an article by Jameel Ahmed titled, "Gay Couples Adopting Children: The Islamic Point of View." This article completely outraged me. I cannot understand for the life of me why people in this world have to be so cruel and judgmental of others. The fact that a couple is gay has no relevance as to whether or not they would make good parents. Quite frankly there are heterosexuals out there that should not be parents. So my question is what makes a good parent.

A good parent is one that can provide for a child. Parenting is defined in wikipedia as being able to provide physical, intellectual and emotional securities and development. Clothes, shelter, nourishment and keep away from dangers provide you physical security. There is no reason why a person that maybe gay cannot provide shelter, nourishment or physical safety to a child. They can be as able to perform these duties as anyone who is not gay. A person who is gay is also just as capable of teach sports, and providing good health habits to a child as any straight person.

So know that we have established that people who are gay can provide physical safety and development lets move on to intellectual securities and developments. Being gay does not make you stupid. A person who maybe gay can provide intellectual development just as well as a straight person can. People who are gay can be educated individuals and their intelligence is not hindered by the fact that they are gay. They are also able to provide a home that is peaceful and just. They can provide a home that is free of physical abuse, verbal abuse and one that does not contain fear.

Now we come to the part where people like to say disqualifies a gay person from being a parent, the emotional development and security. But this is where I question you as to why people think this way. To be a good parent you must be able to provide emotional development. This means giving children the opportunity to show love towards others. To show empathy and kindness towards the old, young, weak and different is the way to teach children to be emotional developed. I cannot think of any reason a person who is gay could not show love towards another. Emotional security is showing a child that they are loved, needed and welcomed. Anyone including those who are gay is capable of loving a child. If you are so inclined to go through the process to adopt a child you are showing the desire to love and welcome a child into your home. So those who say a gay person should not be able to adopt are the ones who maybe should not be allowed to have children.

Now that you have seen what defines a good parent; I ask why does someone's sexual preference change the fact that they too could be a good parent. Jameel said that it is the physical ability to conceive. Well as a mother, there are many friends of mine who are straight that have had to adopt because they were unable to conceive. This does not change the fact that they are good mothers; it just makes their motherhood extra special. They ability to love your own child is wonderful, but the ability to love another persons child as your own is extraordinary. So to anyone who is out there gay or straight who wants to adopt, I say congratulations on being an extraordinary person to love another as your own.

The word gay does not define a person it is the same a being straight it is merely part of who you are. When we as a whole can get over labeling we will be a better community that can raise our children in harmony. Being gay, straight, black or white or any other label does not make a good parent it makes us different. A world where everyone is the same would be a very boring world. I also read a comment on another CP's article that 'Gay people should act normal if they wanted to be treated normal'. My question is who defines what is normal. Normal to me might be different to you. Differences are good they keep life interesting.

For those of you who are going to say I missed the original meaning of the first article that it is an Islam's point of view, I say tolerance is universal and if they what others to accept them as they are then they should do the same and accept others for their ways, believes and ideas.

Jameel Ahmed titled, "Gay Couples Adopting Children: The Islamic Point of View."