A Real Mom's Guide to Surviving Pregnancy

Pregnancy can be one of the most exciting and memorable ttime of a woman's life. True, it can be an anxiety-provoking, emotional rollercoaster, but there are also ways to make it a remarkable ride. Pregnancy is marked by three, separate trimesters. Your approach to each trimester should be different, as each delivers different stressors and rewards. Connecting with another pregant mommie-to-be, or a new mom can be a life-saving and sanity-saving act. Having the ability to "check-in" with this mom allows you to share your concerns, questions, and joys with someone experiencing the same emotions.

The first trimester is an amazing experience. However, it is often filled with fear and worry, and many women often think, "is this normal?". While you are beginning to process the amazing fact that you are actually growing a human inside you, you are also beginning to develop "maternal fear". You don't become a mother once your baby is born and handed to you in the hospital; instead, you become a mother the moment of conception. This maternal fear is something that develops quickly and will last a lifetime. You also develop a lasting bond and love that erases any difficulties associated with pregnancy and childbirth.

The first trimester often presents women with nausea, vomiting, constipation, tender breasts, and extreme exhaustion. The most surprising symptom seems to be the severe fatigue associated with early pregnancy. Most women find that after a full day, a nap is required before dinner, only to be followed by a good nights sleep. Enjoy your naps; they will only last nine more months. Also, you may find yourself constantly wondering if, in fact, you really are pregnant. You may not "feel" or look pregnant yet, and you may have abdominal cramping similar to menstruation. With each passing day, you begin to feel the changes taking place in your body. Take advantage of your need to sleep, and keep your nutritional intake balanced. Your astounding body will tell you exactly what you need to survive these first few months.

The second trimester is often referred to as "the honeymoon" period. You have begun to look and feel pregnant, and you and your baby are beginning to adjust to your pregnancy. While you still may be tired, you are not as tired as in the previous trimester. Your belly is beginning to expand, but not so much that it becomes cumbersome. Most likely, any nausea and vomiting has dissipated by this point, and you are mot likely feeling terrific. Allow others to help you as often as possible, and limit stress. Keep your feet up as much as possible and rest often. The second trimester is a wonderful time to complete any major tasks (with assistance). Registering for baby shower gifts, preparing baby's room, and other similar activities will be easier during the second trimester. These activities also help the new mom and dad-to-be bond with their baby and each other during this special time. Avoid any strenuous activities or tasks, and avoid activities like painting baby's room. Your baby will most likely also be having his or her first picture taken during the second trimester. The ultrasound will monitor your baby's overall growth and development, and will present you with another great opportunity to bond with your baby.

The third trimester is one of growing anxiety and anticipation; waiting for baby's arrival can seem like forever! Your bourgeoning belly is beginning to become cumbersome and awkward, and your balance may be off. Use caution when partaking in any physical activities. Your body is adapting to impending childbirth, and ligaments are stretching and the hormone, relaxin, is being produced in order to assist the ligaments in stretching. Swelling may occur; drinking plenty of fluids and keeping feet elevated whenever possible may help. The urge to urinate frequently is a not so pleasant reminder of the first trimester. However, unlike in the first trimester, your need to urinate is based on the position of the fetus on your bladder. Fatigue also returns, and the need to sleep becomes a major part of your daily routine. Continue eating a balanced diet, sleeping as often as needed, and relaxing as much as possible.

This is the time when most women, if they so choose, begin a childbirth class. This provides both mothers and fathers with necessary information related to childbirth, and also one more opportunity to bond with baby and each other. Begin packing your hospital bag, and include lollipops, slippers, books, magazines, bathrobe, and phone numbers of those you want to contact after your baby's birth. Also remember to bring a "going home" outfit for baby, and possibly a blanket.
Remember that a well-cared for mother most likely has a well-cared for baby. Take care of yourself emotionally, physically, nutritionally, medically, socially, and spiritually. This will most likely be the most difficult, most rewarding time of your life. Let the journey begin!

Pregnancy can be one of the most exciting and memorable time of a woman's life. True, it can be an anxiety-provoking, emotional rollercoaster, but there are also ways to make it a remarkable ride. Pregnancy is marked by three, separate trimesters. Your approach to each trimester should be different, as each delivers different stressors and rewards.