A Secret that All Married Couples Should Know and Do

There was a promise that I had made in my marriage and it was to be the best spouse that I could be. I have been called nuts and pretty much everything else that you could possibly think of at the time but now people are responding by saying that they wished they had a good marriage just like the one that I have. Want to know my secret?

I made a promise when I married my husband to always be the best person and wife that I could to him. I have had a lot of things get into my way and I have shouted to the wind at times but my marriage is still strong.

Why should someone make such a promise?

There are many reasons to make such a promise since the idea behind it is to work as hard as possible to keep your marriage in tact and without making yourself or your spouse go insane.

Right about now you might be saying that I am the one who is insane and that such a promise can not be made since a promise like this would be hard to keep. If you look at some of the things that we could do to be a better spouse like keeping up with our chores or saying that is it alright if the other goes out and I keep the children since I know that they will do the same for me then you will see that making such a promise isn't hard.

In one of the marriage classes that I take a woman had asked why she should keep a promise like this if the other won't. The woman refuse to give into her husband and the husband wouldn't give into her. The instructor gave them the best advice when she told them both to do it for a week straight and to come back next week and tell the class how it went.

The next week when the couple came back they talked about how the wife had dinner ready each time that her husband came home and how the husband told the wife that he would do the dishes since she cleaned the rest of the house. On Friday the husband went out with his friends while the wife stayed at home with the kids and on Saturday they switched and the wife went out. On school days the husband got up extra early to help with the kids and the wife made sure that her husband's lunch was packed and kissed him as he walked out the door.

The couples experience was a lesson in disguise since both said that they have never felt happier and the week had never went by so smoothly. The couples both agreed that it was something worth doing and they promised that they would always be the best spouse that they could possibly be.

How to get your spouse to agree to be the best spouse possible

Here is a challenge for you that might not even be a challenge at all. Many couples feel like the other one is doing all that they can to avoid them or to make their life miserable when all it takes is a few steps from you.

Nothing ever got done by avoiding it. Take the first step and promise yourself that you will try to be the best spouse possible. When you make this commitment you will see a brighter light leading your path since you would do anything for your spouse. Once you make this commitment your spouse is bound to see what you are doing and respond by doing the same thing.

I didn't sign up for this when I got married; oh, but you did

When you got married you married because you wanted to make a commitment to this person that you would do your best to be the best person towards them and for them. Every man and every woman is different but there must have been something there that made you want to spend the rest of your life with this person.