A Shy Girls Guide to Breaking Out of Her Shell

A Shy Girl's Guide to Breaking Out of Her Shell and Making Friends!

I was probably the queen of shy girls. Now, I'm a complete opposite of what I was say...10 years ago. Ok, 10 years ago only takes me to year 8, but I went through some major changes.

What can bring a shy girl out of her shell?

Boys (or chicks, w/e you're into)

In my case boys...Boys can drive you crazy. They're so cute and come in so many different flavors especially when it comes, to race, image, personality, and physical attributes. A boy has a way of making you feel wanted, and even more confident. N to only that but he makes you happy. When you're in love it is as if no one else's opinion matters, and you forget to be shy. Trust me!

Dancing

Dancing tends to bring out the fun side of our personality. You become one with your music and all the elements that makes you shy does not matter. Don't think, just dance. Take lessons at a studio, a class at a college, or learn a new step dance from the television if you aren't the best dancer. I used to be shy about dancing, so I first did the dance moves in my room with the lights off. Then I did the moves in the mirror to make sure I didn't look like an idiot...and I was doing them right! I was doing them quite well actually. That gave me the courage to do the dances in front of other people.

Sports

Did you ever wonder why the whole football team was full of popular, fun people? Sports give people a bond that is incomparable. You go through rough times with practices and losses...and great times! You spend lots of time together in and out of school/work. A sports team is a family in itself. Not good at sports? Join a team that spends lots of time together.

Clubs

Don't join a club that is does nothing! Join a very active club, because you want to be a very active person. Make sure you are involved in lots of events. Don't be a horrible person to work with. Your goal is to make friends and be less shy.

Makeover!

A new you should literally be a NEW YOU! A new hairstyle, a new dress, and throw on some makeup! Your new look will leave you fresh and ready to try new things. It always gets me feeling more confident and bold as if I had a new start.

Be approachable

You're shy because maybe you don't have lots of friends...well be approachable! Ask your current friends how approachable you are. Try to be nice and friendly to others, don't give curt responses and control your emotions. Do nice things for others to open up a chance of friendship. Help someone find their class, or give recommendations. Don't be extreme and go the extra mile but surely take an extra step.

Ask questions

Society is vain! Ask someone about their weekend, or compliment their clothes. People love talking about themselves. Ask a few small questions to get them comfortable with talking to you, and they'll ask you some in return. Remember, don't talk too much about yourself because they'll think you're boring and self-absorbed, but don't talk too little they'll think you're weird or uninterested in being friends.

Don't allow yourself to stay shy

to avoid looking like a "loser" I'd read books during lunch so I wouldn't look lonely. This made me look busy...and it was SAFE. I was allowing myself to stay in my shell. No one wants to approach the girl with the book, it'd seem like they're being a bug-a-boo. That book also lessens your approachability value.

I stopped myself from holding that book and guess what? Some people invited me to eat lunch with them and I even found some other people I asked to eat lunch with.

Attention

Attract attention to yourself to get people talking to you. Arrive to school in a limo? Maybe, it would only bring one question, "Hey what's up with the limo?"

Run for prom queen, no one REALLY likes those popular girls. They have 3 times as many enemies as they do friends. Those enemies will befriend and vote for you. They'd respect that you have the courage to run for prom queen. Everyone feels like they're an "underdog" on the inside.