A Woman's Guide to Keeping Your Marriage Healthy

Many marriages over time can become kind of dry. Your husband my have developed into someone you depend on to fix the squeaky hinge in the door, shovel the snow, or a jogging partner. Marriage bliss doesn't have to end after three or four months. Sure, it's work, and you're going to have challenges but there are a few things that the two of you can do that will help keep your marriage healthy.

Talk About Some Off Topic Things

Have some real conversations. You used to have them all the time. When you and your husband first got married, you didn't have conversations about the weeds near the walkway, the kids, or the bills. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with checking off your to-do list but doing that isn't nearly as productive as emotionally staying in tune with your husband. Try to take about ten minutes each day to talk with you husband about something other than taking out the garbage or something similar. Men have a short attention span. We're like little kids. We're always looking around and getting distracted. If your husband is like that ,(I know I am) try this.....If you want to have a heart to heart talk with your husband, try getting him engaged in some sort of physical activity. Take a walk with him, go jogging, or work out together. If he's physically occupied, it will be easier for him to listen to you.

Fight Clean

Conflict and arguments are normal in any long term relationship. You both need to learn how to air your differences productively. Most of the time, an argument turns into proving you're right. I have news for you, being right is overrated. A good way to find out just how the two of you argue is to tape record your argument and then play it back to listen. You'll find out if you fight fair or if you come across like a demon. I learned this in my first marriage. I was watching a video of a family event and my wife and I were having a fight in the background. It wasn't being hi lighted in the video but you could tell what was going on. I was just shocked at m tone and at her tone and some of the things we said to each other. My wife watched it too and together, we worked on our argument skills.

Stop The Blame Game

If there's something you want changed in your marriage, do it yourself. If you want to be entertained in life, you may have to go out and find that entertainment yourself. Don't blame your husband for your boredom if he works a lot. Find your own entertainment. Reconnect with old friends, learn to play the guitar, or do some freelance writing on line and write about stuff you're passionate about.

You can have a lot of fun with your husband but marriage isn't 24/7 bliss. The key to a healthy marriage is growing together as a team and share your goals. Spend more time on concentrating on the life you want for you and your husband and less time and energy stressing over all the little things.

Now email the link to this article and send it to your husband's email address. Good luck to you.