Action, Steps that Will Teach You How to Stand Up for Yourself

Do you a personality that is so tranquil that people constantly walk all over you? You don't have to always be the doormat, follow these tips and become the one that dominates the situation with ease. In order to get a personality makeover that will give you the attitude of a leader you will need to focus on your self-confidence, readjust your body language with a good posture, bring about a commanding tone of voice, a voice recorder and the ability to say NO.

Working on your self confidence is mainly training yourself to Believe in yourself, not just tell yourself that you believe, really believe in who you are, what you stand for and what you are. People with bully traits tend to pick on those who have a lack of self esteem or confidence to take advantage of, even if you have confidence but you don't show it you can become a target.

Body language says a lot without saying a word, that's why it is important that you stand up straight by straighten your back and keeping your head looking up at all times. Studies indicate that people that have a good posture not only look better, but they also feel more confident than people who hunch down and slump their shoulders.

Also people that walk faster, like they have a purpose or a full schedule look more important which makes them appear more assertive.

The way you talk to others says a lot about your personality. Don't be fearful to speak up and express your mind. People that struggle to stand up for themselves are typically known for not making their voices heard. So keep in mind that if you don't speak up, you can't expect things to change.

When you want to express your mind and make your voice heard, speak clearly, this commands respect and attention. If you speak at a slow and almost measured pace, people will perceive that as weakness. Avoid stuttering, mumbling, or speaking softly, by thinking what you're going to say before you open your mouth.

A voice recorder is a great tool to hear yourself and listen to how others hear you when you talk. Use your voice recorder to practice at home, if you have a cellular you have a voice recorder. When you playback your voice recordings, look for the areas where you find necessary to make adjustments, until you get to the point where you master your commanding tone.

Don't make the mistake of confusing a commanding tone with a rude tone. You don't want to become the bully yourself that sounds rude and annoying, your goal is to have people know that when you say something you mean it.

One big thing that can be a big issue in weaker personalities is the lack of being able to say NO. if you want to say "no", say it! Turning down offers, requests or opportunities when necessary is key to maintaining a position of strong character. Don't go to the other extreme and become negative though, find a balance and remain there. Extremes only display a lack of equilibrium.