Adopting a Baby? Avoid Adoption Scams!

There is no easier way in finding an adoptive child then online. Many women post ad is chat room, and website that get many views from adoptive parents who are desperate for a child of their own. What people don't know, is that it is also one of the best ways to be scammed, and left tragically heart broken.

Couples, women, and men are always very hopeful when they get that perfect e-mail or phone call that they have been chosen to be the new parent(s) by a women putting her child up for adoption. They say how perfect you would be for their little baby to be, and how that they are 100% certain that you are the family-to-be to the new baby.

The catch is that either this person is serious, or looking for some quick cash. Scammer's are always feeding victims what they want to hear. Calling about updates from doctor visits and that they are going threw the pregnancy very well, They even meet up with you and talk their way into convincing you that they are pregnant, especially if they are more on the heavy side. The only problem is, they have no medical bills, no ultra sound pictures, or even a doctors note to prove their pregnancy. People who are desperate for the a baby of their own tend to not think of these, and focus on the baby itself.

Don't get caught up in peoples lies. They will do anything to make you believe that they are pregnant, and that you are 100% the new parents of the baby. Also, many of them ask for money to pay rent, or food so they can lead a healthy pregnancy, Stop and think before you give any cash to the Mother! Take these tips before truly trusting this person! )

Tip 1: Make sure that they give you a legit name, and address.
Anyone can give a false name and address. Make sure that you do a background check to make sure that this person has no criminal records, and is telling the truth about their Identity. Also, ask to see a drivers license or Identification card. If they tell you that they do not have any of these, then you know that something fishy is going on. You can even ask for Her work information as a back up.

Tip 2: Ask the Mother if she is willing to make a doctors visit with you.
If the mother hesitates, or makes up excuses and does not have any medical papers to prover her pregnancy, then there is no doubt that there is something funny going on. A mother who is giving up her baby should be open to all requests. If she says that she is "uncomfortable" having others in the room, then ask if you can wait in the waiting room, and talk to her Doctor/Midwife face to face to make sure that the pregnancy is legit. If they are honest and truthful they are willing to do anything you ask them to make sure that for your security that she is serious.

Tip 3: How to tell if they are lies, or the truth.
Not many people know, but when someone tells a lie, they tend to look to the left. (your right) and if they tell the truth, they look to the right. (your left)
The left side of the brain is known for the Imaginative side, and the right side of the brain is the storage side of the brain. If they are telling the truth, they would look to their right to remember past events, If they are lying, they look to their left to image what they are going to say next. It is a simple trick and you can test anyone you know very well with this. It is not 100% effective, But if someone is continuously looking left, then you know that they are being untruthful. They also have an answer for everything, and most likely practiced what they are going to tell you, the questions you might ask. They are ready to scam you.

Tip 4: Go through an Adoption agency.
This is the best way to make sure that you will not be scammed. Women who go threw agencies usually have to sign paper work that once they make a commitment to putting the child for adoption, that there is no turning back. Also, if the agency does not provide papers for this, you can come to an agreement that sounds fair for both the mother, and new parents. You can have a lawyer help you put the paperwork together, and have a notarizer present for when the papers are signed. If the Parents-to-be feel that the mother has a choice to change her mind after she gives birth, then this should be included in the paperwork.
Also if she wants money for the baby and you are not going threw an agency, and lets say that she wants $5,000 to help her either get back on her feet after labor or whatever she may need it for, do not write her a check or give her the cash. Make sure that you come to an agreement that after the baby is born, and she decides to go threw with the adoption, that only then is she entitled to the money. Make sure to have paperwork signed to avoid lawsuit, or even loss of the baby after the child is born. Any money given to the Women who claims to be putting a child up for adoption is not entitled to give any money back to the Adoptive Parents if she decides to keep the baby.

It is hard for most women who put there child up for adoption, which is why I recommend to not get your hopes up to high. As emotional as it is, and as hard as it is to have the thought in your head that you might not get the child....it is best to be prepared. You might even want to offer open adoption for the mothers security. Other then that if you have even the slightest feeling that something is wrong, take a step back and clear your thoughts clearly. I know that the thought of getting a new baby is so wonderful, but you also want to remember to be safe, and aware of every situation.

Tip 5: There is no such thing as being to safe.
Again, I say that people who are scammer's are professional at what they do. They will not hesitate to make you mistrust them. Even if they feel like your on to them, they try to act as normal as possible, make a scene and accuse you of not trusting them and they will even cry, they are desperate for your money, and will do anything to make you believe them. If they ask for money to pay rent, or even money for groceries, Offer to pay them for her or take her grocery shopping yourself. If she hesitates and says that she can do it herself, or would rather prefer the money, then there is a chance that there is something going on. You have to remember that even $100 is a gain for her, and a loss for you.

Tip 6: Be Aware of Fake Adopting Websites.
Yes, believe it, they do exist. You can tell if the site is fake if there is no building address or phone number to contact a Representative. If they contact you via e-mail, the e-mail address should end with the website name... such as if the website is www.adoptingchildren.com, (I do not know if this site is in use, and is used for example wise only) then the e-mail address should be either "support@adoptingchildren.com" or if they have a name, like Susan Smith, then the e-mail address would be something like "S_Smith@adoptingchildren.com" or SusanSmith@adoptingchildren.com"

To spot a fake website, and scamming e-mail address, the address would be something like this "adoptingchildren@gmail.com" The difference is that the site name is being sent to a different e-mail provider. (such as hot mail, msn, yahoo, gmail (google mail) etc.)

Fake website come in many different look and feels, Scammers will post hundreds of fake postings to get you to believe the website is legit. Fake profiles to scam you into sending money via Pay pal, money order, checks, anything to get your money. They can pretend that they want to give you there baby and they tell you that they need money for anything, and if they claim that they live out of state, and need money for a bus ticket to come visit you, for food, rent, etc, it is most likely a scam. DO NOT GIVE THEM ANY MONEY. Offer to come visit them instead, If they hesitate, it is a scam. Fake pictures, or even Stolen Identities can be used. If you get an e-mail from a user, it should be through the website, and not a personal e-mail.

Once the scammers receive money from someone, or however much they plan to get, they will most likely shut the website down, and you will have no way in contacting these scammers. If everything is done online, then there is very low chances of catching these people. They turn off all previously used e-mails and start new ones. They don't stop. They want more and more money. Just to show you that not everything online is what is seems to be.

These are the best tips I can offer for anyone who is planning to adopt a/or child(ren) Nothing hurts more then to be promised something so beautiful and precious, and have to find out that they don't even exists, or was never truly intended to be in your arms they day they arrive into this world. Please remember be safe, and do not be too trusting. Be alert, and I wish you all the best wishes on finding that special person who will join your family, and bring you great happiness. God bless you all.