Adoption Advice

J. Secrist
Loving bonds form at all ages. Nature verses nurture is a huge worry when it comes to adoption. Prospective parents worry that if they do not get a newborn child they will be unable to bond correctly, but this is not actually true. Sure it's natural for a mother who breast-feeds their infant to share a wonderful bonding experience, but is that necessary to complete in order to share the perfect mother/child bond? No, it's not. Bottle fed babies grow up just as successful as breast fed babies. Does a child have to share a certain hair or eye color, body structure, or skin tone to share a bond, no it don't and many family's adopt babies from over seas because of this and yet many prospective adoptive parents aren't using that train of thought.

When I speak to parents who wish to adopt, I tell them that it's my opinion that love is the one thing that makes or breaks a family. A loving, secure home that is full of attention and quality time will create the ultimate family bond and that is what they should look at first when considering adopting.

As a mother of four children, seventy-five plus street kids and the adopted Internet mom to many, I can tell you that age isn't an issue. The title mom or dad comes with the same responsibilities, the same challenges, and the same demands. A firm, open-minded hand that can juggle both love and discipline is what will provide the baseline for a successful adoption; not the age of a child.

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  • Jessica Montgomery3/23/2010

    Thank you for your comment.

  • Pammila Allen3/22/2010

    I often think adoption is better then growing up knowing that your real mother is not invested in you. An adoptive parent knows they want a child, a natural born mother may of had you because of an accident. I was adopted and I strongly recommend it for others. There are so many children in the foster care system already waiting for attention, for someone to take an invested interest in them, to make them feel good about themselves, and want to grow up to advance out of their current station in life. If we ignore these children they may turn to worse endeavors. Thanks for sharing.

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