Advice for Dealing with a Bad Roommate
Six Simple Tips Are All You Need
1. Keep the conflict amongst yourselves. It's not the best idea to bring others into it. Having an outside force fueling the fire does not help either side. Once one person becomes involved, another does and so forth. Each adds their two cents and the problems continue.
2. Talk about it. If things are horrible, why let them build up any longer? Setting aside time for you and a roommate to talk without outside forces interfering provides time for things to get out into the open. It's important for each side to be completely honest with what is talked about. All the annoying habits and late night comings and goings need to be discussed. Both sides should be allowed ample time to talk about the projected problems.
3. Reach an agreement. Each side needs to come to a point where habits or problems are agreed to be worked on. Don't rush for the clearest way out; one of you moving out (unless this seems to be the only obvious way out). Take a week, starting on a Monday for new beginnings, and try to make things right.
4. Moving Out. When worst comes to worst, maybe it is time both of you going your separate ways. Remember, it is for the best and this does not mean a friendship cannot continue. You have just realized that you two cannot live together, no matter how hard you try. Realize that moving out will benefit you both and move on.
5. When the divides are too great. Don't be discouraged. Things happen. Maybe in due time, things can change, but try not to force them to do so. After both of you have moved out and moved on, you may find yourselves talking again. If not, take it all in stride and move on. There is nothing you can do about it. Some friendship bonds are strong, some are not. Another friend will come along.
6. Don't be discouraged. One bad experience with one roommate does not mean that each and every roommate you have will also be another bad experience. Some people have open minds and are willing to work with you, others aren't. Remember, that you too have to go into the situation with an open mind to and be willing to work on things as well to make the experience a much better one. Relax and enjoy your college experience.
Don't forget that using your best judgment in a situation is always your best bet. If things just aren't working out and no amount of talking or compromising is doing the trick, then it's time for someone to move. If they are involved in behaviors that just do not sit well with you, do not wait to address the matter in an abrupt but firm manner. Above all, seek out the assistance of an RA or RD to solve the matter.
Published by Traci Brown
Traci has a Bachelors of Science degree in Child Development and Family Studies. She is currently working as a Preschool teacher, an English tutor and as a writer online. View profile
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- Dont let things boil over.
- Keep it amongst yourselves.
- Talk about it!
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I have some advice buried in my one hour YouTube video "From Tenth Grader to Professional Engineer in Ten Years or Less" about roommates. Basically, plan your life so you spend as little time with them as possible. This might mean spending more time at work, in the gym, at the library, etc. Also minimize possessions so you can pack and move on a moment's notice. I call this living a "nomadically mobile" life. Avoid putting your name on any lease or bill if you can help it.
Best way to deal with a bad roommate is to NOT talk to them%21 Only communicate over business matters or things that are truly important. In other words%2C screw the small talk and be subtle but hint that you aren%27t going to put up with their crap.
My roomate likes to have boys over all the time and have sex in the room. What should I do?
I would try to work out me and my roomates probelms execpt she doesn't talk. Besides being socially retarded and painfully shy, she also lacks in hygene. We have almost been in school a whole year and she wasn't made a single freind. And the best part is she has no idea of her own image. Like the song says "she's so much cooler online," her facebook shows a completely different person. Thank god she goes homw every weekend!!!
I go to boarding school and I have a foreign roommate who goes to bed at like 2 and wakes up around 5.... hence the problem.... i dont get any sleep b/c the girl is always either talking on the phone or studying... and its not the fact that shes awake all the time but the fact that she is so freaking loud. she slams her drawers open and closed. So annoying.
I have friend of many years which is now my roommate. I really could use some advice if anyone out there has any. To explain my problem I have to go back a few years. Originally I moved in with him because I wanted to save money so I can finish school.
Things have changed now. I still need to save money and if I made more I would most certainly move out. He's a good friend and all, and pays rent on time. The following is a list of my annoyances with him.
1. He's a couch potato and dominates the living room from sun up to sun down. And I'm not making light of this, I'm being totally honest and literal. With the exception that he does work between 30-40 hours a week.
2. I cannot put food in my fridge or shelves, when he gets drunk, he will eat from my supply. When I confront him about it he has claimed the food was spoiled. I thought by asking him to let me throw away my own food that would solve the problem. Yet, food still somehow disappears and I'm rarely here to track every litt
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Why are roommates so mean