Getting a divorce is relatively simple, as far as the law goes. A spouse cannot deny the other a divorce. Florida is also a "no-fault" state. In a no-fault state, the petitioner only needs to allege irreconcilable differences.
Divorce can be very simple if there are no children and no major assets and liabilities to divide. Many couples can file for divorce on their own, or hire a paralegal to help them complete the paperwork that needs to be filed.
Throw children or substantial property, assets, liabilities, and retirement accounts into the mix along with a long-term marriage (generally defined as over ten years), and the opinions of what each spouse thinks they are entitled to escalate. It is not so simple as to divide everything in half. There are many situations where one spouse may think he or she is entitled to more of the assets and / or less debt, particularly if there are children involved.
While there are guidelines to deal with many of these issues, especially child support, there are no tried and true guidelines in place for alimony awards. The courts in Florida use the following factors in deciding alimony (2006 Florida Statutes 61.08):
-The standard of living established during the marriage
-The duration of the marriage
-The age and the physical and emotional condition of each party
-The financial resources of each party, the non marital and marital assets and liabilities distributed to each
-When applicable, the time necessary for either party to acquire sufficient education or training to enable such party to find appropriate employment
-The contribution of each party to the marriage, including, but not limited to, services rendered in homemaking, child care, education, and career building of the other party
-All sources of income available to each party
Any of these "guidelines" are at the discretion of the court and are determined by the court's opinion of what each should mean. What defines a long-term marriage? It seems the courts cannot decide what a long-term marriage is.
The Second District held that 14 years is a long-term marriage, but in Knoff (Knoff v. Knoff, 751 So. 2d 167 (Fla. 2d D.C.A. 2000)), the court was determined that it was an abuse of discretion to fail to award permanent alimony after a thirteen and a half year marriage. Based on Cardillo (Cardillo v. Cardillo, 707 So. 2d 350 (Fla. 2d D.C.A. 1998)), the court determines a long-term marriage to be 14 years, but cautions that the length of time of the marriage was not the only determining factor in alimony.
In the Fifth District, the court was reluctant to determine a 15 year marriage as long-term (Young v. Young, 677 So. 2d 1301 (Fla. 5th D.C.A. 1996)) and determined it was in a gray area. Several districts consider a 17 year marriage as long term. This is only one of the myriad of decisions a court has in awarding alimony.
In today's society, most households are two-income households. The issues this article addresses pertain to two-income households where both parties have comparable education and / or job experience in lieu of education. Often, the court awards alimony to the wife as an equalization factor. This is purportedly assuming that the would-be paying spouse has an ability to pay, and the would-be receiving spouse has a need.
If the would-be receiving spouse has worked or is working, there should be no "need" for the would-be receiving spouse, as he or she should be able to procure an income comparable to the would-be paying spouse.
When children leave their parents' home, are parents obligated to pay their children alimony? Why, then, should a former spouse be obligated to support an adult that is perfectly capable of working and creating the same income as the paying spouse?
Alimony is based on the common law right of a wife to be supported by her husband. In 1979, the Supreme Court removed its limitations to husbands to account for cases in which the wife is wealthier. In today's double income society, why should either spouse support the other? Alimony was designed to support a spouse that otherwise did not work, and stayed in the home to rear the children.
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11 Comments
Post a CommentDisappointed: Alimony should not even be given on a fault basis. It should only be given on a need basis. Florida just recently changed the law regarding a woman living with another man. You should check your state's laws regarding this. If you feel your ex is supporting both herself and her new man, you should revisit that in court. Check your state laws - ask for a modification based on substantial change of circumstances.
I feel alimony should only be given on a fault basis. My ex left me for another man & now I support them both by an income deduction order base on her needs. No wonder the divorce rate is so high.
My ex testified that she lied about living alone and it did not make a difference. PI would be of no help. I am glad it work out for you and it shows how much the courts fail.
The judge has to take the new law into consideration. You just have to have proof. Good proof is if you can prove that your ex-wife's live-in partner is getting mail at her address. You can also hire a private investigator to follow the live-in. Yes, it will cost you because yes, your ex-spouse will lie about it so she can keep getting alimony. If you are fighting an alimony case, you have to be persistent and have lots of patience. I helped my husband's attorneys get his alimony dropped. His ex lied in court about her finances. It took 3 years, but it got done.
Even if you prove co-habitation with that same person over 10 years & lied in court about living alone. There are other rules that the Judge will consider not mention with the new law. The new law does not work nicely, only causes you more expense. Alimony is a debt for life and lawyers do lie.
Florida Alimony - I am a family law paralegal, and have actually seen the new law come into play. It works nicely, but if the ex-spouse receiving the alimony "hides" the relationship, it can get financially difficult for the ex-spouse paying, as he would have to hire a PI and so on.
Pinellas - yes, some attorneys will drag it out, but the court has rules regarding the length of time. They currently have case management meetings (in Hillsborough). If mediation is not at least scheduled by then, the court will order it to be scheduled. They want these cases out of the system as fast as possible.
Alimony - actually, they need to do away with alimony, except in rare cases when one spouse becomes super dependent on the other spouse - i.e. after 40 years of marriage and there is no way for the spouse to get an education and/or job. The way I figure it, when you leave your daddy's house, you don't get paid from your parents, unless you were born with a sliver spoon in your mouth.
Fault needs to be used when a spouse asks for Alimony. Too many times a spouse wants out to be with another person; knowing that remarriage will stop alimony & the only option the spouse paying can to is quit their job and leave the state.
Attorneys are not there to save your marriage. Most Attorneys will drag it out for the money; both couples will loose unless a spouse had to get out of the marriage at any cost.