Always Stay Involved !

Our children are our most precious of life's possessions, our jewels that we pass on to the next generation. They are our life, our history, our future and our legacy that we were here on this planet. They carry on what we teach them and allow the world to know that we made a mark.

If something should happen to our children our mark would disappear. We are here to protect them, nourish them, love them and care for them. Even when they hit that magical age of 18 and believe they have become an adult. Even then life's bumpy road has pot holes in it that your age and wisdom can help them pave over.

My oldest daughter at 19 sometimes thinks she knows everything that life has in store for her and that she has all the answers, like most teenagers. Most times I will allow her to think that she has all the answers and not put in my advice as sometimes dumb mistakes are good learning tools. Then there are other times that I do have to step in and give advice before dumb mistakes turn into stupid mistakes.

I have had an experience just lately that has taught me that you really must stay involved in your children's lives no matter what their age. As this experience even though it turned out ok, it could have been a very dangerous experience had I not found out about when I did.

My daughter was a manager at a fast-food restaurant in our town and around July of last year a boy started there that she befriended. Soon after he took the friendship and tried to turn it into something much, much more. More than what my daughter wanted as she is already engaged to a really great guy.

My daughter, trying to be a self reliant adult, tried to handle this on her own, she told the guy to leave her alone, her friends told the guy to leave her alone, her boyfriend/fiancé told the guy to leave her alone.

Now how I found out about it, we live in a really small town. In the beginning of January of this year, I was in my store and one of my customers came in and asked how long this guy and my daughter had been sleeping together, because apparently the guy had been passing this story around town.

I confronted my daughter about it, and she finally confessed that this guy had been stalking her. Well I went to his myspace page and it was wallpapered with hearts and my daughters name, along with blogs about her and how he knew she wasn't his girlfriend but he wasn't going to stop until she was and she was the girl he was going to marry. He had also left a 6.5 minute voice mail message on my daughters cell phone.

Well I told my daughter you have tried to handle this yourself, now it is time for daddy to get involved !!!

First thing I did, was get the police to go and make out a complaint for "Harassment by Communication" for the 6.5 minute voice mail message. Next I contacted a friend of mine at the GBI (Georgia Bureau of Investigation) and got this guys DOB, SSI and Drivers License # and within 48 hours of me finding out we had a Staking Protective Order in place with a 500 yard minimum distance. I copied his I love her blogs and then I confronted the boy and told him to stay away from my daughter or the next love affair he would have would be up at the state penitentiary with Bubba and Louie with him having a starring role in a prison rape scene.

Now we just had the final court hearing this week on it, and the outcome was that this guy must stay away from my daughter for 12 months. He can not go into my daughter place of work, can not call her, can not talk to her friends about her or have them pass a message to her, can not write her, can not email or text her and if she is in a public place and he sees her he must leave immediately. If he violates this order in any way shape or form, he will not pass go, not collect his $200.00 he will go directly to jail.

So sometimes Daddy does know what he is doing !!

Yes being involved helps a lot. This guy from what I found out has a lot of problems. In the 6.5 minute voice mail message he left, he stated "I will not stop trying to make you mine even if someone puts a gun to my head." A stalker like this is one who would eventually hurt your child. Had I not gotten involved when I did who knows how this might had turned out.

Fathers be involved, especially in your daughters lives. You are much more important than your realize.

For any teenage girls reading this or any women of any age, if you have a stalker, seek out help. Someone, anyone, Dad, a friend, anyone...... Do not let a stalker get the upper hand on you. EVER !!!

Something to think about !!

Just one man's opinion. As always, put the wind in your hair and keep the sun to your back. Be good and stay safe. Peace, Love and prosperity to all.

Good Journeys !!!

Frank WOLF TM © 2005
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