An Open Letter to My Sistas

I guess I must first begin by apologizing to you, for I feel that I have helped contribute to your current condition. Although it is no excuse, my behavior was due to my own ignorance of your true Grace & Beauty. It was ignorantly that I sang along to songs that demeaned and degraded you. It was ignorantly that I allowed my gaze to stop short of your true beauty and splendor, settling for a glimpse of your skin instead. It was with absolute ignorance that I have called you vulgar names other than mother, sister or friend, and for my actions I am deeply sorry, please forgive me.

I am writing this letter to you today with the hope that I can convince you that you are far more valuable than the world is treating you. I am writing this letter to say that for centuries it was your strength and ingenuity that has served as the very backbone of an entire nation. But sadly that backbone seems to be suffering from a severe case of stenosis and atrophy.

As I write this I find myself wishing that I could talk to you for just a few moments;

I wish that I could warn you about the wolves in sheep clothing. Men have a hidden ability...a superpower. They can listen (when they want to) and to pay attention to you and then transform themselves into exactly what you have always been looking for and then when they have gotten what they want from you they leave or worse they stay around and continue to deter and distract you from discover your true value.

I wish that I could just tell you that there are some men in the world who really do love you and want nothing in return...and that it does exist! I wish I could tell you that it isn't easy and that sometimes it does get lonely...but the payoff is ooooooooooooooooohhh sooooooooooo muccchh better.

I wish I could tell you that if you think that you can use your looks and sexual attraction to lure him in and then later reveal your personality and mind, that it will never work that way...that attraction begins fades once he hits it! (No matter what they say with their mouth!!)

I wish I could tell you that in relationships math is not the same. One half and one half do not equal a whole, in fact a half a woman plus a half a man = one whole mess...you can't begin to expect to find happiness in a relationship until you are whole yourself and you love yourself...a man can't fix that for you.

I wish I could tell you that your sex and your good looks are not so powerful that they will change the bad habits of some knucklehead! (read that twice please!) I have seen to many good women waste years of their lives trying to change some guy...it never happens and the woman grows old and bitter and cold towards all men!

I wish I could tell you that if you show who you really are the person who will value cherish and appreciate you the most will be attracted to you...not vice versa...revealing your best "physical attributes" will only attract those who are only interested in your "physical attributes." In other words if you want to meet someone who values and respects your thoughts and opinions...let that be the bait you put out there.

I wish I could tell you that in comparison there are more of you young ladies working and making and spending money, and that when record sales, clothing sales and movie ticket sales drop because of the absence of your dollars...better songs will be made...better fashions and better representation in movies will start becoming a reality.

I wish I could tell you that;

Real Men don't Look for real women in Clubs
Real Men don't find vulgar language attractive in women
Real men want a woman they can trust to be faithful
Real Men want a woman submitted to God
Real Men want a partner/companion
Real men desire intimacy...not sex

I wish I could tell all of you sistas that change will come when you demand it! When the fellas realize that it takes more than a shiny grill, a few drinks, drugs or a tight bass line to get at you things will start to change.

I wish that I could tell you that there should be some mystery when it comes to you and that like any of our other national treasures your wealth,grace,beauty and virtue should be protected and access to them should be restricted.

Most of all I wish I could convince you that this is bigger than just you, and that the choices that you make or fail to make today will have an effect on our future generations.

Lastly, to my older Sistas, I want to challenge and encourage you to embrace, teach and mentor your little sistas. Be the example they so badly need to see. Be there to encourage and praise them when they do it right. Support their endeavors when they are trying to do the right things, help them reach their full potential, and if you haven't reached yours then both of you lock arms and get there together.

I pray that my words have not offended you and that you take them in the spirit in which they were written...to help. I wont delude myself into thinking that my one letter can change the world...but I will remain optimistic that maybe at least one person will read this and be provoked to seek change.

With Much Love and Respect
Your Brotha
MMOG37