In the poem "Talking in Bed" Larkin speaks about darkness that creeps up, which I interpret to mean that the darkness, USA and other prominent world forces, are beginning to creep up on England because it is becoming a less dominant and more isolated place. The Poem ends with
"It becomes still more difficult to find
Words at once true and kind,
Or not untrue and not unkind." (Larkin Lines 10-12).
This quote displays how Larkin views relationships as well as how he views intimacy. Larkin is saying here that at this point in the relationship things have become mundane, making things that were once said out of emotion and truth become things that are now said out of necessity to lie in order to please the other in the relationship. It appears as if this critique could be leading towards the idea of needing to grow in intimacy, which it should not stop but continue to be alive and growing within a relationship. Once this intimacy stops, the relationship dies.
The real genius of the poem comes through Larkin's ability to criticize multiple facets of society and poetry through he text. Not only is he stating that England is losing power within the world, and that intimacy is dying, but he is also making a clear statement about the conventions of poetry by using a clearly classical structure yet appropriating it to fit his message. He is taking the 3 line stanza form and using it to display the journey of the form of the poem by using faux flowery imagery in lines 4-6 when he states,
"Yet more and more time passes silently.
Outside, the wind's incomplete unrest
Builds and disperses clouds about the sky,"
This quote gives the reader language that would be common amongst poems from classical periods, poems that relied heavily on the flowery language to make their poem "art." Larkin is playing on this convention by leading the reader to believe this convention and then exposing them as a fool in the next stanza where he states,
"And dark towns heap up on the horizon.
None of this cares for us. Nothing shows why
At this unique distance from isolation" (Larkin 7-9).
The imagery shifts in to darkness and isolation, which is in stark contrast to what the reader was expecting from the poem. Larkin succeeds in making the reader become a fool to the convention of classical poetry.
Larkin, while appropriating the form of classical poetry, succeeded in conveying his intended message of experience over innocence and hostility over passivity and naivety. He conveyed the importance of the furthering isolation that was occurring for England, and what effect this was going to have on the country as a whole. The journals that were published after Larkin's death present a different picture of his as a person, but I would say that they generally give the same picture as the poetry does, only in a more extreme use of words.
Published by Amy Madore
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22 Comments
Post a Commentthis is a very nice poem. may be larkin trying to say the relationship between husband and wife is like the game of hide and seek.
In all my fifty years as a poetry critic I have never read anything so silly. You, sir, should be ashamed.
Please please consider this before dismissing. Think for once.
I am doing a project in English and chose Philip Larkin randomly out of a jar, I love him though.
I always like to read the comments on the poems I chose. I've done that and been reading everything everywhere for a week now, it makes me laugh at how arrogant and right larkin is about most humans. Poetry is interpreted in different ways depending on how someone sees it. There is really no right or wrong answer. Sure Larkin was TRYING to say something but we don't know do we? it's his head. For all anyone knows he could be talking about how he loves his cat. Everyones just different. And It makes me laugh that I'm younger than you and understand this Everyone is very different from everyone, no god crap, just truthfulness. Bt the way if you really want to feel stupid, guess how old I am? 15. that's right. I'm not smart, sure I make good grades but I just pay attention. I have an old soul, always have. Just saying.
This poem is about INTIMACY in relationships BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE and has NOTHING to do with England's "intimacy" with America. This is the most ABSURD analysis of a poem that I have come across in forty years of reading and writing poetry. The fact that the author of the analysis can't see that speaks volumes about his/her experience with intimate relationships.
Hmm intersting point of view... It is true that many of his poem do relate to a country (mostly in such era as post-war poetry) ... Thanks for the info on the Flower Struture didn't know that !
the poem is literally about talkin i bed and his fears of true intimacy and marriage wtf did u get america from?!
You weeners need to get a life honestly. Who gives a rear end about peotry???
POETRY IS GAYYY AND I CONTINUALLY ASK MYSELF WHY THE HELL WE HAVE TO LEARN ABOUT IT!!
thank you.
interesting. thank you for the insight, very helpful:)
yeahhh, i'm not going to get angry as some people have but i really dont think this poem has anything to do with america (although larkin did hate americans), when he talks about the dark towns i think he just uses it to emphasise the personas isolation and how unimportant their lives and relationship is in comparison with the rest of the world. This poem simply deals with the breakdown of relationships and dismisses the idea of enduring love
ahhhh...... what?