Anger Management Will Help You Learn to Control Your Anger

We are all susceptible to becoming angry. Anger is an emotion which is controlled by the Amygdala, two almond-shaped parts of the brain. It warns us of danger and threats and put us in the self-protection mode. However, it is so efficient that it causes us to react before our cortex (the part of our brain that is responsible for our thoughts and judgments) can determine the reasonableness of our actions.

The good news is that we can learn to control our anger and aggression, anger management can be very effective.

Physiological of Anger

Anger causes physical reactions, the heart races, blood pressure rises, breathing rate increases, and as blood flows throughout our body our face may flush. We are unable to focus on anything, but the target of our anger. Increased adrenaline puts us into a state of lasting arousal, making it hard to return to a resting state. This state of arousal can last hours and sometimes days, and during that time it makes it easier for us to become angry again.

Psychology of Anger

Physical or emotional pain coupled with negative thoughts trigger anger and motivate us to take action. What are the types of negative thoughts that can make us angry? Assessing a situation, assuming something, interpretation of things, thoughts that make you think someone is trying to hurt you. Over analyzing a situation and only considering negative possibilities will only make you angrier. Angry people feel justified, in their minds, about their anger and reactions. Also, anger is used to cover up feelings of helplessness and vulnerability; it gives a false sense of power and control. However, when pain and hurt get buried deep inside of us are hearts become hardened. If we allow our hearts to become this way we become evil because we are unable to forgive; forgiveness is important it enables us to let go of the underlying desire for revenge. Buried pain is alive and lives on deep within our hearts if we do not face it by accepting the fact that we have been hurt, and then move on.

Deciding to Learn Anger Management

The human emotion, anger, is normal. But how you deal with your anger can be very unhealthy, and not normal. If you know your anger is uncontrollable or if someone you trust and respect has told you that the way you handle anger is not normal then anger management can help.

Only you can decide to learn how to learn to control your anger. Unresolved anger can lead to outburst of rage, domestic violence, and legal problems. Relationships suffer greatly when abusive behavior results from anger. If you have children they to are being abused indirectly by your angry behavior. A child that watches the actions of an angry parent is emotionally and psychologically affected. Also, children learn what they live. When parents harbor anger and resentment, act out in anger, children learn these negative behaviors. Anger management can save your relationship and allow your children to grow up in a healthy safe environment.

Choosing to face your anger problems is a lifestyle change, and it is an ongoing process. Anger management programs are effective and worth the effort.

Anger management programs can help you take back control of your life.

Do you doubt that you have a problem controlling your anger? Answer the following questions honestly.

Have you ever been so angry that you have hit, pushed, scratched, etc. someone that you believed hurt you? When someone disagrees with you does your voice rise until you are yelling at the top of your lungs? Do you feel your heart race, your adrenaline pumping if you have to wait in a long line at a bank, store, doctors office, etc., and eventually start making loud rude complaints? If some one cuts you off in traffic do you step on the gas to catch up with them so you can curse them, give them the finger, cut them off? Do you tailgate while driving, weave in and out of traffic because you feel frustrated if you take your time and go with the flow of traffic?

Parents: Do you argue, curse or call your partner names even though your child is present or in earshot? Has your child seen you slap, push, scratch, punch, your partner? Is your first reaction to yell and scream at your child if they break something? Is your first reaction yelling, slapping, pushing, grabbing your child by the arm, etc., when they misbehave?

If you answered yes to one or more of the above questions please get help controlling how you react when angry.

Educate yourself, and become aware of how dangerous uncontrolled anger is then get help.

Information about Anger Management at Mayo Clinic

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