Appreciating Your Husband

You know it has crossed your mind at one point in time or another. It just kind of pops into your head, you can't help it, you just really want to smack your husband upside the head. We all know we can't actually do it, but we really want to. The question is how do you avoid doing it and if possible not even think about it.

The first thing I do is chant, "I love him" over and over. Which honestly I do. He is one of the most caring human beings I have ever met. You know the saying "heart as big as Texas"? Well that is my husband. He also can be one of the most annoying human beings on Earth, but that's probably just because I live with him. You know the little annoying habits that were not such a big deal, some were actually kind of cute, when you first got together? That all changes when you've been married for ten years. The wrestling with kids was wonderful at first, now it drives me to want to pull my hair out. But I love him, I love him, I love him. I even love him enough to move across town from his mother. Trust me that is love.

My daughter is actually a huge help in getting over my extreme annoyance with my husband. When your teenager looks you right in the eye and explains that there is not a thing that he wouldn't do for you and to get over yourself because he isn't really that bad. If that doesn't put things into perspective, I don't know what will. She often tells me how lucky I am to have a man love me that much. She is only thirteen. She adores him, can you tell?

When really upset or angry I think about our first date with our children. My husband had full custody of his two daughter's, I had one of my own. In total we had three, four and five year old daughters. Our first date involving our kids was the county fair. That's where I fell head over heels in love with him. The carnival had a very large twisty slide all the girls wanted to go on, once at the top my daughter started freaking out, so my husband climbed to the top of the slide, put my daughter on his lap and rode down the slide with her. That is just one of the ways he has been there for her, and the rest of our children. He is and never has been a part time dad, even with the one not biologically his, he never notices the difference. That makes him a catch in itself, even if he is much more strict than I am, so sometimes we have issues with that, but never do I doubt how much he loves our children.

He works almost everyday to make sure I don't have to work and we all have what we need. I suggest the next time you feel like smacking your husband upside the head, think of all the things he did that made you fall in love with him in the first place, he may not be perfect, but then neither are you. Think about how your life was before him, and how it would be without him. For me the little annoyances, bad moods and other frustrating behaviors are worth it. I really do have a good man. How about you?