Are All Women Man-Stealers at Heart?

The following freaky news is bound to set off some alarms in some of you. There is an unusual phenomenon behind a taboo attraction. Researchers at Oklahoma State University conducted a survey. They had the female participants describe what their ideal man would look like. Next they showed photographs of guys who matched the description of their perfect match. When the ladies were told their perfect match was single, 59 percent of them said they would go out with him. When they were told he had a girlfriend or was married, the percentage of those who would go out with him skyrocketed to 90 percent. Merely knowing the guy was spoken for increased his appeal factor.

Anthropologists say it is a basic instinct. Back in the caveman days finding the ideal mate was a matter of survival. It was important for your cave mate to be able to house, feed, and protect you or you would die. When a female see what appears to be a successful relationship, their cave girl mentality deduces the male must be a good protector/provider forcing his appeal factor to increase.

There is also an issue which transcends the primal urge of the taboo attraction phenomenon. Some females become stupid about attached men because they assume he is Prince Charming. Observing him in his romantic role, opening the door for his mate, paying the check at the restaurant, helping her on with her wrap, etc, congers romantic fantasies about what it must be like to be with him. They see him as dashing and attractive, thus more appealing than a single unattached guy sitting at the bar drinking a beer alone.

All women are not members of the taboo attraction club. It is not that unavailable men go unnoticed by this group or they seek to shun girl on girl competition for another guy, they simply have a great deal of respect for other people's relationship, plus have a reputations and morals they wish to uphold. They are not looking to mess up the relationship of their friend or the significant other of the one for whom their taboo attraction may begin to blossom for. They are a rare group.

An interesting side note from the survey revealed men have no preference for unavailable women over available ones. The male instinctual sense whether a woman will make a good mate or not is discerned through his observation of her. Does she show signs of fertility? Is there a good hip to waist ratio? Will she bear healthy babies? No digging or conversational interrogation is necessary. Pure observation will answer most of a man's questions about the selection of a good mate.

So why do taken guys seem more sexier? It's purely primal. Women are looking for the best mate available. A guy involved in a relationship is demonstrating his ability to hunt and gather well. He is setting a good example. The guy not involved a relationship is demonstrating nothing. He is setting no example. The best example attracts attention.

Resource: Why Taken Guys Seem Sexier - Cosmopolitan Magazine - December,2009

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