Are You Falling for the Right Man?

Let's begin with lesson number one in falling in love. Love is not an immediate attraction, but it should be. If you are initially disinterested and are told or prompted into liking someone, you will, if you marry, find yourself easily distracted. Are you falling for the right man? Do you like him from the first moment you saw him? I am a firm believer in love at first sight. But, occasionally life has its surprises.

Now, what could those surprises be? You might have found someone who is already branded. The situation could work out but unless you are desperate for triangles that will be life long, run. What is to be gained by making dreams of someone who will never be with you totally. The initial pain that you will feel at leaving when you discover that the man you are falling for is already taken will be nothing compared to the pain that you will feel if you continue in a trite triangle. Look around you, learn from stories that you have read, listen to others who have found themselves, or so they said, hopelessly enamored of some man. Love is an option.

Let us move on to lesson number two in falling in love. You have found someone who is available. Your immediate attraction has held out and his demeanor is something that you could feel completely at peace with. What should you do? Run up to him and lap like a dog in his face? What you should do is to take a good look in the mirror at yourself. Love is magical. Is your reflection magical? What does he look like? Do you look like his female double? Sure, sure, many men will tell you that they are not looking for their twin. But, I am telling you that they are more easily led to the altar by someone that they are told by a little trigger in their brain is too much like them to be let go of. Many men marry their mothers. And, that leads us to lesson number three.

You have now moved on to meeting your man's family. What does his mother look like? How does she behave?
Don't dismiss her as someone who is vying for your man, she already has him. Do you like her? If you don't, run, and start again.

Which brings us to lesson number four. How does one know after one or two bad mistakes that they are falling in love again with the right man? I suppose, we just have to go back to lesson number one.

I know a little fairy tale about two robins. Two robins arrived in Spring and met on the same maple branch. The female robin sat on the farthest edge of the branch. The male robin hopped a little close to her. She didn't flinch. He hopped a little bit closer to her. She looked at him. He hopped on top of a twig and looked down at her. She had to look up. The two of them flew away together.